jealous of ex's, is it normal? Options

[anoniez]

is being jealous of your bf/gf's ex(es) normal? why should you feel bad, if they dont care about them anymore? (its different if they do still care, i suppose) what can you do to prevent it?

i can understand why he feels bad when he thinks about me and my ex doing stuff together.. i mean, i was his first kiss but he wasn't mine.. but he gets jealous every time my ex(first boyfriend) is mentioned, even though we dont talk anymore. is there anything i can say to stop him from thinking about it / being jealous about it? i really dont want him to be hurt like this from something that doesnt even exist anymore.

[_sarcastic_]

sometimes enough is just enough. tell him that the crap he brings up is in the past and all it does is cause friction between you two. you respect that he may have some insecurites but you two are in the present and if he wants a future then he cannot keep throwing your past in your face.

i agree.

he's not exactly making the relationship healthy at all, he needs to get over the fact that you were with someone else before he came along. he has you know doesn't he?
my bf is doing this to me right now, bringing up my ex saying how much he hates my ex when he doesn't even know him in the first place, and then it causes a huge arguement between us.