jealous of ex's, is it normal? Options

[anoniez]

is being jealous of your bf/gf's ex(es) normal? why should you feel bad, if they dont care about them anymore? (its different if they do still care, i suppose) what can you do to prevent it?

i can understand why he feels bad when he thinks about me and my ex doing stuff together.. i mean, i was his first kiss but he wasn't mine.. but he gets jealous every time my ex(first boyfriend) is mentioned, even though we dont talk anymore. is there anything i can say to stop him from thinking about it / being jealous about it? i really dont want him to be hurt like this from something that doesnt even exist anymore.

[flaymzofice]

Like anubis said, it's mostly to do with what goes on in your other half's head. The thought of someone else having you before your current got to you. From observation, it bothers guys more than girls - it's a territorial thing. Guys have to 'own' everything completely, or be in control, and obvious they're not if they came second etc. Don't think there's anything you can do to 'prevent it' - it's on them to get over it, harsh as that may seem. I always think current relationshippers should realise you're with them right now and not the ex...for a reason. Quit living in the past.