Ugh...Season of Disaster, Me, a girl...and another guy.=/ Options

[jrdrehey]

[FONT=Geneva]Ok so here ill tell you the backstory first. Ok me and this girl named Sarah, met in the 7th grade, but Ive only gotten closer to her during the summer of 8th grade year. Ok, we first started talking through AIM, and stuff like that, and like a couple of weeks later, she gave me her phone number, and so I started talking to her over the phone. At this point, im already falling for her. So, I start talking to her like everyday from then on, and finally on one day, she invites me to go to her "Mixer," a dance in which all schools around the area can attend to, on a friday. At first I was about to ask her to go to the movies with me, a date to say the least, since its been 3 months since Ive last seen her, but in the end I decided to accept the invitation to the mixer. SOOO...friday rolls along and its the day of the dance, and so I call her to make sure all the plans are all set up to meet each other. I prepare myself with a new dress shirt and all that other shit, and finally go off to the dance. When I arrived, at first I was stunned because of all the people that were there. Secondly, I was stunned because when I saw her, I was amazed, partly because she looked so beautiful, to tell you the truth my whole body was numb. Ok moving on, the danced continued, and the plan for the night was to slow dance with her. Ok remember that I know no one at the dance, so I was a complete stranger. So the last song goes on, and I get up to go ask her, then this dude comes out of nowhere and starts to slow dance with her. I stood there in the middle of the dancefloor, dumbfounded. I turn around and go back to the bench. So, heres the twist. In the same day, she promises that she wouldnt ditch me at the dance, and atop of that she even promised to dance with me the whole night, but she didnt. So after the dance I go home, like hella depressed and shit. Ok now a time flash to now. For our skool, our winterball was like last saturday. So i asked her if she wanted to go to winterball with me a couple of weeks before, and she said yes, but ONLY if her mom would let her go to our winterball, because the SAME guy that danced with her at the mixer asked her to go winterball with him as well. So like 2 weeks ago, she leaves a message on myspace saying that she couldnt go with me to our winterball, and instead shes going with that other guy. So, saturday comes along, and shes at her winterball. On tuesday of this week, I then find out the guy asked her out......and she said yes. AND sooooooooooooo...im stuck here....depressed partly because knowing that I was *THIS* close to having her. And now i dont know wut to do......and so i think i needed advice.

So wut shud i do?
1. move on
2. fight for her
3. be patient and wait for her to come to me.

iono its ur choice....

[ParanoidAndroid]

move on. That slut aint worth your time.

[Paradox of Life]

move on. That slut aint worth your time.

... Care to explain why?

Well, here's the deal. You can't just assume that she was interested in you more than the other guy. For all you know, they could've been friends since primary school. You seem like a really sensitive guy. Don't let this girl hurt you! But don't be furious and angry and ARGHH YOU'RE A SLUT on her. So you couldn't have her as a girlfriend (for the moment). You can still be friends with her. And when she breaks up with her boyfriend, you'll be there to comfort her. And maybe a long time from now, she'll realize that you really cared a lot for her and you two would live happily ever after! But .. um.. yeah. That's a little farfetch'd.

What I say is, just stay friends or acquaintances with the girl. Don't be desperate for her and don't be angry at her. Just keep it neutral.