Grandmothers, do they love you? Options

[Spirited Away]

I don't know where this belongs, but family counts as relationship, I think.

You see, I never really knew my grandmother that well, but I've always felt like there was a special bond between us because we're in common in some ways.

Then I found out that the only thing we could have in common with is our blood.

Grandma hated my mother because my mother came from a poor family (nonetheless a very educated family and long story as to why they dislike each other) and I supposed she transfers that hate to my brother and I. She told me that I looked like my mother, and as a child, I thought it was a compliment. Now I know those 'compliments' for what they are...

It was more than ten years since I've seen her, and I cried when I finally did, knowing that this was my chance to get to know my grandmother. Knowing what I know now makes me feel ridiculous to ever have thought she cared.

What about your grandmothers? Did they have give you a fake smile and compliment you with empty words? Do they care to know what you've been doing the ten years that you're apart from each other? Do they criticize your flaws and see nothing of your accomplishments?

[ThePrincessofTKD]

both of my grandmothers are proud of me because i`m their only grandchild that lives in america. and my mom always tells them my accomplishments and they congratulate me. i never heard any controversy over my grandmothers..it`s just their offspring that bring up the controversy. my half-cousin steals money from my 80 year old grandmother and my parents are furious because it`s their money they`re sending to the philippines for my grandmother, mostly, and other relatives...usually it was my dad`s side of the family that was selfish and greedy [not my dad of course. he has common sense.] and for my mom`s side of the family..i only have one bad aunt and i`m the only neice of hers that actually loves her.

thing is..old people can be stubborn. and it would be pointless to tell them to listen to you. when old people have grudges...THEY HAVE GRUDGES...even in their will that they sometimes leave behind..