Family Problems...., hurting me inside... Options

[Lightner]

Well... in my family (just me my mom, dad, and sister) we are having some problems... mostly about my sister... a while ago i made a topic about my sisters boyfriend and how terrible he was and jsut stuff like that... well she is still with him and now this is worse than ever... my sister and mom get in arguments EVERY day... i cant take it much longer.. every time i hear them yell it makes me cringe and just really hurt.. mornings are the worst because im just all emotional and just messed up because i have both mom and sister yelling at each other (me trying to get ready or school) and im in the middle... i cant take it... my mom is very dramatic, so is my sister, so for example about 30 minutes ago they got into an argument because my sister hasn't been home all day.. she was at dance practice for school and other stuff... of course her stupid bf...

so my mom gets really angry and doesnt want her helping to put ornaments up.. so my sister says she wont do her homework till she is in bed... so they argue for about 40 minutes then my sister leaves to her room.. this is a daily thing... my sister is a senior, going to college soon.. hopefully the house will get quiter... but for now its just really stressful and im forcing myself to stay away rom other bad things that people say make u feel better... in other words my friends say i should do drugs which i will not to EVER!!! but i just want to get out of my house and go somewhere else.. i guess thats why i cant wait to grow up and move out.. im just really confused and i was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on how to relieve stress...

im sick and tired of hearing them argue but theres noting i can do about it... i dont want to open up to a school counselor because they will most likley reccomend some family therapy stuff which is too embarrasing... what should i do?

[annalucky]

^hahaa.

I suggest you seek help from a counselor. These types of situations can cause a great deal of stress that can effect you in school and overall, your ability to think or act. But I can see that you don't want to do that.

Try talking to your mother about how much it's bother you. Communication is the key. The arguments are most likely not only effect you emotionally. Your mother can be dealing with a boatload of stress and talking to her could help both you and her ease all that tension out.

You could also try talking to your sister. Ask her whether or not she believes that she would sacrifice her relationship with her family for a boy that she's seeing. She's going to college soon. Many people need their parents to help them in their beginning college months. Remind her that her parents will be with her forever, and as for this guy, will he be there if he gets her pregnant? Will he be able to support her? Or would he just leave her the minute he gets into her pants?

Your mother should also understand that your sister is going to college soon. She's going to be more independent than ever. Your mother might just be feeling more overprotective because she's going off to collge. Or really, to see what the real world is really like.

Sorry, I know that was long, but I just finished an essay for english and I'm in the mood to type.