okay soooo i just got out of a relationship Options

[teeners4]

well like i know you should try to stay friends with your ex and stuff right? and the break up was mutual, but i still feel like i got dumped for some reason. o_o anywhooo he said he wanted to stay friends. so last nite was the day right after we dumped each other. and well the whole night he was inching me.

like if he wanted to stay friends why would he act so arrogant and stuff you know? and he kept teasing me and it was so annoying. i mean he said he wanted to stay friends so why doesnt he act that way?

my friend pointed out that maybe he's always acted that way but i never noticed his flaws. but it seemed kinda on purpose if you know what i mean.

pure bs. the whole night it was like he was trying to be the center of attention and trying to prove that hes having more fun than me being single and im thinking "wow way to stay mature"

so like should i even make an effort to maintain a friendship cause he asked for it or should i just ignore it and just keep going and dont even give an effort for a friendship.

cause i know the "right thing to do" is stay friends but when do you know its not even worth it cause hes such a prick?

[*anubis*]

my theory is, and this is just a scenario:

okay. so you say you guys both dumped each other. surely you both couldn't have said it at the same time, right? so i'm guessing one of you brought it up first, and the second one just agreed to it.

my guess is that you brought it up, the whole idea, y'know "it's-not-you, it's-me" kinda thing. and just as you were proceeding to dump him, i think he told you that he was thinking the same thing. thus, having you guys "mutually dump each other."

but i don't he was being honest. he probably still liked you and had feelings for you, but because he knew you were going to dump him, he could have retaliated and lied, saying he felt the same way in order to save his own ego--not to be dumped.

and he probably said he wants to still be friends, because he still likes you.

just... based on what you wrote, i kinda inferred what would be the most valid situation for it. hopefully i'm on the right track.

so if you "both dumped each other" and he still has feelings for you, he wouldn't want to lose you. he'd probably want to win you back--although his actions conflict with what he said.

but what he said, i don't think it's what he really truly believes.

my guess is just that he doesn't want to lose you.

but hey, i could be wrong