Fairly Tales, am i stuck in one? Options

[HuGzNKissEs]

I happen to be the average girl who watched fairly tales as a child & thought the best part was when the two main characters would fall in love.....(beauty & the beast...Ariel & Eric...cinderella & the prince...snow white & her prince...sleeping beauty & her prince...etc.) & now that i'm older i watch chick flicks with the same basic principle.

Well i've sorta stuck it in my head that guys really are that sweet & loving. But it seems like everytime my b/f & I kiss & stuff he just gets hard..... ...& then once again my little fairly tale bubble is bursted. I've tried talking to him about it & i understand that he IS a guy but....isnt there ANY guy out there who kisses a girl & actually thinks about JUST that kiss for that one moment & like everything just stands still??? ANYONE?? Please help!

[ceara cecilyrose]

Oh for crying out loud!

What do you EXPECT a guy to do if he's kissing a girl he cares about? Really, Disney doesn't mention that all of their fairytale heroes are probably hard as rock when they're kissing their princess. Its just something that happens! Romance and the like is wonderful, but at its heart, modern romance has a lot to do with sex and creating children. Look further into even the disney fairytales. They all seem to have children eventually. That means that the fairytale characters were having sex *g*
A guy having an erection isn't really something that he can control easily. I mean, it's feasable that if he thought of something vile like his grandmother naked or something, that would make it stop. But then he wouldn't be enjoying kissing you.
Is it a bad thing if your boyfriend finds you arousing? A guy getting hard doesn't always mean that he's consciously thinking about sex or trying to get into your pants. It's just another physical thing that happens albeit one that is often spurred on by someone the guy is interested in :)

Don't get me wrong, I think that guys should be sweet and romantic and caring. My boyfriend most certainly is - the last time I visited him, he gave me flowers every single day I was visiting and he hugs me and kisses me and tells me how much he loves me.
But he gets hard a lot in my presence. It doesn't mean that all he wants from me is sex (actually, he's less sex-focussed than I am) but it does mean that it is something that he likes to do with me and I don't have a problem with that at all. (We're both consenting adults in a long-term committed relationship, after all!)


You shouldn't do anything with your boyfriend that you're not comfortable in doing but you also need to understand that he's a male with a penis and testosterone. He WILL get hard sometimes around you because he must clearly find you attractive (otherwise why would he be with you?) and thats just something that happens. It doesn't mean he's not feeling romantic or in the moment!