Love At Our Age?, Young love Options

[cookieskater2]

Do you believe in love at our age?Meaning for me around 14-15? And when I say love I mean REAL love. Like true love, not lust, infactuation or sex..I mean like love. Not "omg i think my new bf is cute hehehehehe!!111" Love isn't just a feeling or emotion...it's also going through trials and obstacles with someone and still holding on because you care so much about them. You care about them more than your own self and you can't get them off your mind...do you really think it can be real love? And do you think the feelings of the two people involved can last through everything and never ever fade away?

...What do you think?

[*mipadi*]

I think before you can have a successful relationship, you have to know yourself. You have to know who you are, what you want, what your goals are, what you're looking for in life and in relationships. For the most part, most teenagers haven't really figured all that out yet. I don't mean that to be condescending, of course, but adolescence is a time of turmoil and change. It is a time when people are developing from a child into an adult, and in the process, figuring out--and more importantly, defining--who they are; which means that they're tastes, thoughts, and feelings are likely to change. Rushing into a relationship at such a chaotic age will likely not be successful, and may hindrance growth as a person. I look at adolescence at a time to date to see what you like and help to figure out who you are, and to practice the whole relationships thing, and, most importantly, to have fun.

[xTINAA]

I think before you can have a successful relationship, you have to know yourself. You have to know who you are, what you want, what your goals are, what you're looking for in life and in relationships. For the most part, most teenagers haven't really figured all that out yet. I don't mean that to be condescending, of course, but adolescence is a time of turmoil and change. It is a time when people are developing from a child into an adult, and in the process, figuring out--and more importantly, defining--who they are; which means that they're tastes, thoughts, and feelings are likely to change. Rushing into a relationship at such a chaotic age will likely not be successful, and may hindrance growth as a person. I look at adolescence at a time to date to see what you like and help to figure out who you are, and to practice the whole relationships thing, and, most importantly, to have fun.

Agreed.

Love is such a big, complex emotion and idea. It really depends on how you define love, if you distinguish between the types (aros, philia, etc) and if you you LOVE somone or if you are IN LOVE with someone. In my opinion all of those things must be taken into consideration before making such a big leap/commitment as to really truly being in love with someone.

Sure, there is this super small chance that some 12 year old is truly in love but honestly, I doubt that. Like I quoted, you need to be able to know yourself (and love yourself) because you can let anyone else get to fully know you or love you. It's difficult for things like that to happen at a young age because you haven't even fully developed yet or been out in the 'real world'.

It doesn't mean you're stupid and one isn't able to tell if they're in love or not because of their age. It only means that it's less likely you'll truly be in love at a young age because you probably don't even fully know yourself, haven't grown, changed, or experienced much. Love is a HUGE DEAL. Love, infatuation, crushes, liking someone, all of that has big differences. At young ages it's quite easy to confuse some of them and mistake infatuation for love.