Ex-boyfriend is flirting with my friend Options

[Little Bird]

Hey,

Last year I had this boyfriend who I couldn't stand by the end of the relationship (despite that I told him I would still be his friend). He was upset over our break up over the summer and I could tell that at the beginning of the year he still liked me a little.

Now I always see him flirting with my friend who likes him at play practice. When I first noticed that it made me really angry. I didn't understand it. I don't love the guy and going out with him was the worst choice I ever made so why is this making me so angry? I also feel like there is something I have to win but I don't know what it is. I've come up with a few solutions.

1: Maybe I still have this idea that he belongs to me or something because when I see them flirting it feels so surreal.

2: I feel like I've been winning since June (the break-up). Since I haven't really liked him at all since our relationship ended I feel like I had power over someone I don't like and that is satisfying. However, if he is over me for sure, I've lost. But I don't kbnow what I'm trying to win.

3: He might be trying to get back at me for the break-up by flirting with my friend (and soon going out with her).

Maybe it is one of these, or maybe it's all of them. I don't know exactly what it is yet so if someone could please give me some more ideas that mght be nice.

I really want to know who else has ever felt this way before. I want to take the high road and let my friend go out with him but I don't know how to get over this anger. Do you guys think I'm being a total brat over nothing or is this natural? I've never had a boyfriend go out with my friend before.

[c4rL4]

i think youre just actin that way because maybe you feel lonely.
and because he's flirtin with your friend instead of you and sometime you just feel like you want something that you cant have.. and youre askin for it back when you had it. riightts?

maybe that could be it. its just one of my experiences. i think. =\
anywayss, hope that helps.