Boyfriend//Best friend ISSUE!!! Help?, Gah... Options

[ahmegnutmeg]

Okay, my boyfriend is absolutely the most perfect person in the world for me. He's so unbelievably... Seriously, we're like puzzle pieces. Every part of him connects with me just so perfectly; we're one of those nauseatingly cute couples... Haha, I know it's stupid. But... Okay, over the summer, he was only my best friend. My big brother even. He was actually really really REALLY crushing on my best friend... Like, he wanted to spend the rest of his LIFE with her... And after she gave him a straight "NO." he crawled to me for help. I was on the phone with this boy for twelve hours a day, talking to him, consoling him, comforting him. After a while... We just clicked. I always wondered if I was just her rebound, and I know I was. It's a hell of a lot different now, he says he doesn't think about her at all anymore... And that he loves me more than he could EVER have loved her... And yet, when the three of us are together with a few other close friends... He flirts with her like CRAZY. Sometimes, he'll even ignore me. SHE'S MY BEST FRIEND. WHAT THE HELL IS HE DOING?! And it's not like he doesn't KNOW he's doing it!!! Once, he said "Ruby, I know me and Muna flirt a lot... It doesn't bother you does it?" "No..." YEAH IT BOTHERS ME!!! And my other best friend (his best friend too) tells me, "Don't you ever get jealous? I hear more about Amber and Muna than I hear about you..." What do I do?? I know I should talk to him... But what do I say?

[Chii]

i hate to say it but maybe you were his rebound girl...after your best friend turned him town, you were there for him so naturally he'd have feelings for you.

you should really talk to him about that flirting thing. of course it bothers you it would probably bother everyone if their current boyfriend/girlfriend flirts with an ex crush in front of their face.

some people don't think flirting is a big deal and when he asked you if it bothered you, you said yes so maybe he just doesn't know that what he's doing is bad.

just because he doesn't talk about you doesn't mean too much...some people like to keep their relationship a secret so it's just between them, making it more special. i don't go around blabbing about the guy i'm seeing because some things should just be private, and when it gets serious, then you can tell people.