Do guys cry when they break up with their, girlfriends??? just wondering!!! Options

[jEllyBeaNs]

i was just wonDering....when guys break up wit hthere girlfriends, or get duMb. do they cry?? i kno u guys get sad but i was jsut wondering!! it seems to me that gurls are the only ones that sho it.

[Vozedale]

I remember crying hard in a relationship in which I was deeply in love. Remember calling up my best friend right after, don't think I even said Hi or anything before just bursting out in tears.

The one and only guy I dated was a really senisitive guy (I'm bisexual). He cried when he found out he was in love with me and i with him. Cried when I broke up with him because I wasn't sure how I felt, and cried sometimes after that when he got confused and just wanted me back. It's been 3 or 4 months ago, and I think both have really strong feelings for each other and are still communicating, but we haven't been back together. The quickest start in a relationship I've ever seen, we fell in love literally over night, and broke up the next day.

I think the whole masculine-retardo stereotype and role of men is ridiculous. I'm sure women go through more physical pain in life, but I think guys go through more emotional pain, mostly because they don't have as many exits because our society's view on masculinity is stupid. How often do guys go to their guy friend to talk about something they are upset about? Plus, the not being able to cry in front of someone is stupid idea, too, besides the crying in front of someone and making them feel guilty thing, that makes sense. But that is your choice, if you get that from girls a lot, do the same thing back. Do it and then reject them. You guys are mostly young and in young relationships, when you get into serious ones, it isnt going to make a difference whether you cry or not, the woman probably won't change her mind.

I had to learn how to cry, because for me, I had to let it go. From about 14 to 16, I underwent depression, and I rarely did it ever come out in tears. It came out in sitting completely still, not saying anything, not doing anything. But towards the end of the depression I went through, I had something a little more expressive, convulsions. I only had one episode and I lost consciousness, and it was in the car with my mom sitting right beside me, she was driving, not me. I remember when I was 17 I would get really upset about something at school, and would stop myself from crying. The result wasn't good, by the time I got home, I couldn't cry, it was all anger. I laid down in bed, and I would lay there for awhile. My emotions would build up, and instead of crying I had fits, i would burst out violently. I would kick and hit and punch in every direction. I was conscious during these, but lost control over my body. I had two of these episodes, on the second my mom heard me, she thought i had fallen down the stairs, and we have a long staircase with walls on both sides. Personally, I don't know about you other guys or what you girls think guys should do, but I prefer crying.

Another thing i want to say about macho-retardism, is that i think it takes a tougher man to stand out against stupid things. A guy in my biolgy class my freshman year in high school, drank some chemical that was used to preserve fetal pigs for dissecting, he had to go to the hospital and have his stomach pumped. And I don't mean in just stunts like this, but any. I wouldn't do that for a dollar, and I'm sure that isnt the reason the guy did it either. He was probably dared by guys, and did it so he looked cool and tough. Well, I think it takes a tougher guy to not be so assertive and willing to be a complete imbecile for his pride. Don't tell people push you around and decide what you can and can't do just because you are a man, same goes for women. Guys get hurt, guys get discriminated against (more and more frequently nowadays), guys have rights issues, guys get sexual coerced and raped, as well as sexually assaulted in many different forms, and guys have a suicide rate, across all ages, that averages to 7 times that of women. A guy crying in public should be ashamed, but not of himself, but of our society's ridiculous stereotypes of a man.