hi, i'm an ugly 15 year old girl, =) Options

[x_shattered]

like my title?

Anyway, i'm just here to rant. I'm 15 years old, and have never had a boyfriend in my entire life. I'm okay with this, but it gets worse. It just seems like guys don't like me. at all. The last guy who liked me was in 4th grade, and let me tell you, that is a long time ago. It's not like i'm antisocial with guys or anything, they just don't really want to get to know me. I think the reason is that I'm not "pretty" or hot, i'm...quite ugly, in fact. I love my personality, but I hate my looks. -sigh- stupid shallowness. I haven't even been to a high school dance and i'm a sophomore...not planning on to either.

Any tips on how to cope?

[rinchan089]

I KNOW YOU"VE COME TO TERMS WITH THIS YOURSELF, BUT I"M SURE MANY GIRLS OUT THERE THINK EXACTLY THE SAME WAY YOU DO. THIS IS FOR THEM:

I think you're being WAY too self-centered. Of course, guys don't think you're attractive... People see you as you see yourself!

If you BELIEVE you're really popular, well, so will everyone else. If you BELIEVE your goregeous, then so will everyone else.

And, just to let you know, I took a poll on my guys friends for you; none of them care about appearances.

It's all about the personality.

However, if you don't believe your good enough, or smart enough, or pretty enough, everyone will think of you that way.

Here's a heads up: Guys like girls who are confident, secure, and independent. If you believe you are those three things, then let that shine!

Don't think I don't know what I'm talking about, because I do. All through middle school I was hideous and I became really self-conscious. In high school, my friends showed me that all that matters is what was inside of me all along; ME.

I've only gone out with one guy and it was in 7th grade for 7 months. It was a horrible break-up. I moved on and, after a few more heartbreaks (I didn't go out with anyone else, though), I realized that I didn't need someone else to be who I am.

In highschool, boyfriends are unnecessary. They might be nice to have, sure, but the chances you'll spend the rest of your life with this person are slim to none anyway, right?

Don't ask me to feel sorry for you and your horrible predicament. Your life is, ultimately, your own responsibility. In the end, the only person you can truly depend on is yourself; pity doesn't get you anywhere.

All you have to do is help yourself.

Rin-chan