hi, i'm an ugly 15 year old girl, =) Options

[x_shattered]

like my title?

Anyway, i'm just here to rant. I'm 15 years old, and have never had a boyfriend in my entire life. I'm okay with this, but it gets worse. It just seems like guys don't like me. at all. The last guy who liked me was in 4th grade, and let me tell you, that is a long time ago. It's not like i'm antisocial with guys or anything, they just don't really want to get to know me. I think the reason is that I'm not "pretty" or hot, i'm...quite ugly, in fact. I love my personality, but I hate my looks. -sigh- stupid shallowness. I haven't even been to a high school dance and i'm a sophomore...not planning on to either.

Any tips on how to cope?

[mouse_3k]

You're unpleasant, please shut up.

it is unpleasent but its true. shes mad she doesnt have a bf and shes 15. its not even that big of a deal.

u should rather wait till someone comes to you that actually likes you, or you can be the type that just wants a boyfriend, be used, and called easy the rest of your highschool career. your choice.

[*mipadi*]

it is unpleasent but its true. shes mad she doesnt have a bf and shes 15. its not even that big of a deal.

On the surface, that seems to be the issue, but dig a bit deeper, and I think you'll see that not having a boyfriend is not in and of itself her true reason for concern.

Think back to a time when maybe you weren't so lucky in love, yet everyone else around you was happily coupled up with someone. The issue wasn't so much about not having someone to cuddle with, but rather, the nagging question of "Why is no one attracted to me? Why am I not loveable?" I think that's the original poster's real concern at this point, and it's a concern that many adolescents grapple with. From that point of view, telling her to "suck it up and deal with it" isn't that helpful, because her concerns are more of a self-esteem issue than simply being single.

In that light, I think the best advice is what's already been giving: just figure out who you are, and how you define yourself, and become comfortable with that; make changes were you feel changes need to be made, but be happy and content and confident with the things you like about yourself. Once you're confident and happy with yourself, you'll be much more attractive to other people, especially guys.

I myself have grappled with this issue. Who am I? What do I want out of life, or out of relationships and friendships? What are my values? As cheesy as it sounds, what I did was wrote everything down, several long pages, detailing my thoughts on certain subjects, my values, the kind of person I'd like to be, my goals, what I wanted out of life, and so forth. And it really worked, because through writing, I was forced to really delve into my mind and explore who I was. And in the end I was much more confident in myself because I knew who I was and what I wanted. Maybe you should give that shot, it might really help a lot.