accidental crush, is it just me? Options

[x shootingstar x]

Just to let yall know, this doesn't apply to me. I'm just wondering.

Okay, let's say you have a boyfriend/girlfriend. And during the relationship, you develop a crush on someone else. Is this normal?

If this has happened to you, were there any particular reasons?

Like for example, your partner doesn't give you enough attention, so you turn to someone else and talk or whatever. Then you develop a crush for them.

Could this be a sign that you should break up?

Feel free to talk openly about this topic. Just stick to the idea.

Please do not reply if you are just going to say, "I don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend," "I'm not sure," or any other unneccessary answers. First, it wastes time. Second, it is totally irrelevant. =)

EDIT
do you guys tell your gf/bf about them?

[*anubis*]

it's natural in any relationship for people to just subtly look around--whether you're taken or not. it's part of human nature. we're always going to have attractions irregardless of the situation.

but most of the time you shouldn't worry too much about it. especially if it's not too serious. that's just how things are.

just because you have a car doesn't mean you can't look at other cars.

or uh... in a girl's case. just because you have a million dresses, doesn't mean you can't check out that new hot dress at the store.

what i'm trying to say is, we all go through those kind of phases in a relationship. like, when i was in a past relationship, i would still look at other girls. just because. but, even so, never did i even once think about leaving her for someone else. because i felt like i was deep enough in relationship to be comfortable and loyal enough to my girlfriend not to ever have the intention or motivation to mess around.

of course, some people are gonna go to extremes and cheat on each other, etc etc, but that's them. i mean--just because you have a boyfriend, doesn't make it wrong for you to look at other guys. unless you're amish or something.

in some cases, i think of it as a good thing. it's healthy in some ways. you might be thinking "hmm... he's kinda hot" but then you might think about your boyfriend on the other hand, and realize how lucky you are to be in a relationship and then, you might just appreciate it a little more each and every time.

you might be thinking "i want that guy" but, somewhere in your mind, you think of your boyfriend and realize "wow. i already have the perfect one."

thus, instead of shifting away from it, it could make that relationship deeper and even more meaningful.