Letting Go.., of the person you care for... Options

[steezahh]

How can i say this; i used to like someone;but i guess my feelings just changed; so i dont really want to be such close friends with this person anymore; but they currently want to do EVERYTHING with me! lets just say me and this person are like best friends! its me [girl], and my friend [guy]; what can i do to not be so attached to this person; yet still keep a still friendship with this person; i mean i still truly care for this person; we have done most everything together in the past.
Oh another problem is i always have this person on my mind; but i know i have to stop feeling so close; but then another part of me just wants to keep being the best of friends with this person. and i already tried not calling him; waiting for him to call but i could not help myself and i called just to hear his voice!!
PLEASE HELP! also; if you're dealing or delt with the same issue please post!

[*anubis*]

i went through about the same thing over the summer.

if you want to still be good friends with him, but not have those kind of romantic feelings for him anymore, seeing him will only make it worse.

no matter how much you may feel for him, if you think this is the best for the both of you, you have to not see him for a while--let yourself take a break from him.

i didn't think it would work for me.

but it did.

and i'm pretty sure it'll work for you. don't completely ignore him or anything--cuz that would only confuse him. just try seeing and talking to him as little as possible for as long as you need.

maybe between 2 weeks and a month. yeah, it may seem like a long time, but it actually goes by pretty damn fast.

once you stop seeing him, you'll stop thinking about him--or at least think about him a lot less.

and maybe then, when things have calmed down, you can try and set a barrier between your feelings and him. i'm not saying like build a wall between you guys, but like--try to keep your feelings from seeping in to him.

and if you get used to it, it may not make much sense or sound stupid, but you'll get used to the fact that hes "just a friend"

and you might realize that your attraction for him has faded or gone away.