liking someone .., i dont know what to do !! Options

[megan_x3]

Ok. This is probally like my 3rd time making a topic for myself. But, there is this guy in my class. I really like and him and I hope he does have a little bit feeling for me. But for this past 2 days, we've been talking. My friend asked him if he liked me but he said no, just as a friend. I've been down for past days because it hurts when you sorta get rejected, you know? The stupidiest thing that I could've done is that I told my friend I liked him in her chatterbox and his friend's goes to my friend's xanga. I feel like a stupid pa bo ! x[ I just want to die right there. Is there any way that I can get his attention? Some ideas that I can use to get him to like me? There isn't much I know about him becuase we don't usually talk about serious stuff. If I talk about serious stuff; it sorta make it obvious that I like him; etc. Well to me it seems like that. I don't know what to do .. please help.

[*anubis*]

it's not easy to change someone's mind when it comes to attraction.

ever heard of love at first sight? or at least--attraction at first sight? and that's usually the case. now, for girls, you might not like a guy at first, but slowly start to because of his charm, personality, whatever--but, guys aren't exactly the same.

it's either you're in the ballfield.

or you're not.

and that could be decided in his mind the very first minute he sees or meets you. and if he likes you, you'd know. if not... i'm sorry.

but i don't want to get your hopes up and tell you that there's always a chance--because there is. if he doesn't like you right now, there's probably something about you he doesn't like or he's just not attracted. just no spark. and guys, being more shallow than girls, will tend to have a change of mind depending on the appearance--in a lot of cases. and it's sad, but true.

and maybe it did get off to a pretty awkward start--with him already knowing that you like him. that'll definitely make the "getting to know him" phase awkward beyong belief.

so the only thing i can say is, one way to get him to like you is to probably change yourself. but is it really worth it?