my gosh !, :bites: Options

[islandkiss]

oh my %$@#*&^.

Okee Dokee so, My friend and I pretty close but whenever I tell her something really personal, she promises that she won't say anything but she ends up telling everyone whatever I say. This happened more than once. I just always forgive her. But I can't feel like I could trust her much anymore. What should I do? :(

I hope this makes sense, I don't feel so coherent today.

[starlette]

this one is easy. Don't tell her anything. I have aq friend who is the same way. I would specifually tell him not to talk, and I knew he was the only person I told, and somehow it would get around, so I stopped confiding in him. Thats all you can really do. Explain to her that if you wanted everyone to know your business, you would tell them yourself. Period. Also, tell her if its really important to her, she can try to earn your trust back slowly. But if you decide to do this, make sure you start off with little things, so if she cant even keep quiet with the little unimportant things, you know for sure if it was something big, thats shes not trustworthy. Theres nothing you can do personally to make someone more trustworth, just don't trust her. Sorry about your friend though.