The Worst Mistake of MY life, Can I have advice? Options

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

Well, I need HELP!

In now in 8th grade.. but What i'm now telling you.. took place when I was in 6th grade. You see this guy that I liked starting talking to one of my friends on AIM. And she told me about the things they would talk about. So, one day I was online and he IMed me. [I assumed that my friend had given him my screen name] And we started to talk, and I found out that he liked me.. and I like him too. It was like a dream come true. Untill one day he asked me to be his girl friend. That's when I panicked. I told him that I'd think about it, and thats when I made the biggest mistake of my life. I told him NO.

You see, I am the youngest in my family.. I have two older brothers. And at that time neither of them had EVER gone on a date. So I told him no, because I thought that my parents would tell me that I was TOO YOUNG to go out. Now I'm starting to like him again.


Now, I'm in my last year of middle school, and I know that high school next year I'll meet cute guys, new guys. And What if I might want to go out with them. I want your advice. Should I go behind my parents backs and go out with a guy that I meet... Or should i tell them. But if I tell them, HOW? I feel so scared to tell them, cause my father seems so strict. He's going to have to meet the guy and make sure hes not someone my dad doesn't want me going out with. He hasn't said this, but I KNOW it will happen

Any advice? Please?

-Christina

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Well...
I doubt that it'll be the worst mistake of your life. You're only going into the eighth grade....you'll meet a lot of other people as you get older, and relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend ones, anyway) shouldn't be your main priority right now anyway.

However, if you want to talk with him about it, I suggest you do it in-person. Basically just tell him what you told us just now.

As for telling your parents about it or sneaking around....the noble thing to do would be to speak with your parents about it, but that doesn't always get you where you want, so I guess if you want to risk it, you could sneak around. That's bad advice for me to give though.

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

Well...
I doubt that it'll be the worst mistake of your life. You're only going into the eighth grade....you'll meet a lot of other people as you get older, and relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend ones, anyway) shouldn't be your main priority right now anyway.

However, if you want to talk with him about it, I suggest you do it in-person. Basically just tell him what you told us just now.

As for telling your parents about it or sneaking around....the noble thing to do would be to speak with your parents about it, but that doesn't always get you where you want, so I guess if you want to risk it, you could sneak around. That's bad advice for me to give though.

haha.. not to me is it bad advice to give.

And you are right that its not the worst mistake of my life. I just feel that I had this GOLDEN opportunity. That a guy that I liked ACTUALLY liked me back, and then I turned it down. So maybe its not really the worst mistake of my life.. but I just feel like I regreted it especially since I like him now.

[inthemudhole]

you're welcome. btw hi brie =P

Hi Sean. :P

haha.. not to me is it bad advice to give.

And you are right that its not the worst mistake of my life. I just feel that I had this GOLDEN opportunity. That a guy that I liked ACTUALLY liked me back, and then I turned it down. So maybe its not really the worst mistake of my life.. but I just feel like I regreted it especially since I like him now.

Yeah, I see what you're saying. I was put in a similar position at the end of seventh grade. I had been liking this guy for a few months, we started to talk, he found out I liked him, he told me he liked me, he asked me out, etc. I was in the same position as you were because my parents are strict about things like that and have always stressed the fact that I couldn't date until I was about sixteen or seventeen years old. I went with it because I was so ecstatic at the time. Sneaking around can work, but only for so long... I mean, my parents figured it out after about five months or so.

Sorry for rambling. That really had no point to the thread, but I guess my final advice is to talk to him about it in-person. Things always go over the best in-person. Sure, things may seem smoother if you do it online or on the phone, but the results will be better if you do things in-person. If you end up going together, then I suggest you either have a nice, sit-down talk with your parents about things and that you'll behave yourself and still keep up your grades and such. If that doesn't work, then I don't know. I feel like a bad person for saying this, but I guess you could just sneak around if they say no.

Good luck. (:

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Hi Sean. :P
Yeah, I see what you're saying. I was put in a similar position at the end of seventh grade. I had been liking this guy for a few months, we started to talk, he found out I liked him, he told me he liked me, he asked me out, etc. I was in the same position as you were because my parents are strict about things like that and have always stressed the fact that I couldn't date until I was about sixteen or seventeen years old. I went with it because I was so ecstatic at the time. Sneaking around can work, but only for so long... I mean, my parents figured it out after about five months or so.

Sorry for rambling. That really had no point to the thread, but I guess my final advice is to talk to him about it in-person. Things always go over the best in-person. Sure, things may seem smoother if you do it online or on the phone, but the results will be better if you do things in-person. If you end up going together, then I suggest you either have a nice, sit-down talk with your parents about things and that you'll behave yourself and still keep up your grades and such. If that doesn't work, then I don't know. I feel like a bad person for saying this, but I guess you could just sneak around if they say no.

Good luck. (:

How did your parents figure out that you were sneaking around?

I think if I do sneak around their backs I'd do it. But i'm thinking that i should first confront my parents about it when i get to the age 16.. cause that should be old enough to date. and they can't say no then

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How did your parents figure out that you were sneaking around?

I think if I do sneak around their backs I'd do it. But i'm thinking that i should first confront my parents about it when i get to the age 16.. cause that should be old enough to date. and they  can't say no then

Well, it was a combination of a few things. Once I forgot to delete his number off of the caller ID, I was spending more time than usual socializing, and I think they overheard me talking about my relationship with my best friend. Also, I think after they got suspicious, they started to read my Xanga a little bit. They then confronted me about it and I couldn't lie to them like that and say that I wasn't doing anything with a guy, so I ended up telling the truth. They then lectured me and told me to break up with him. I said I would, but I guess they figured I wouldn't, so they didn't allow me to go out with friends and such anymore.

And that's a good idea about confronting them when you're sixteen. That's a respectable age to start dating.

I ramble too much. /end random

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Well, it was a combination of a few things. Once I forgot to delete his number off of the caller ID, I was spending more time than usual socializing, and I think they overheard me talking about my relationship with my best friend. Also, I think after they got suspicious, they started to read my Xanga a little bit. They then confronted me about it and I couldn't lie to them like that and say that I wasn't doing anything with a guy, so I ended up telling the truth. They then lectured me and told me to break up with him. I said I would, but I guess they figured I wouldn't, so they didn't allow me to go out with friends and such anymore.

And that's a good idea about confronting them when you're sixteen. That's a respectable age to start dating.

I ramble too much. /end random

oh, yeah. Well I just figured that if i did I'd just tell them that I was going to the mall with a friend, or the movies. And then they guy could just pick me up or my parents could frop me there. Or i could double with one of my friends and they could take me... i think too much

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oh, yeah. Well I just figured that if i did I'd just tell them that I was going to the mall with a friend, or the movies. And then they guy could just pick me up or my parents could frop me there. Or i could double with one of my friends and they could take me... i think too much

Yeah, I used to do that and I thought everything would be peachy, but I guess it just seems like you'll eventually get caught somehow. I was pretty confident about with what I was doing and all, and I made sure to cover my tracks a lot, but it'll eventually catch up to you. You can only really keep it a secret for so long.