open relationships Options

[xquizit]

how many of you have been in one and share your experience.

i ask because i just recently fell into an open relationship. sort of like "friends with benefits" but a little more serious than that, and we're allowed to date other people. he and i agreed to to this because both of us had just gotten out of really long-term relationships, don't like the drama that accompanies a relationship, and feel that we're too young to be tied down and should be having fun. however, since the agreement, i've sort have found myself catching feelings and thinking about him and missing him more than i should for something that is suppossed to be "open" and "casual". i also hate the idea of potentially sharing him with other women. i don't know how long this is going to last without me wanting more out of our relationship. i wish i didn't fall so easily. perhaps I'm just not cut out for this.

[*Programmer*]

Open relationship....as in you two are just messing around?.....well im not trying to be the person who brings bad news.....but im sorry to say it roxy....most of the time that doesn't work out.....i know plenty of guys and girls...who have had "open relationships" in the area we live in...that usually means that the guy or girl wants to mess around but doesn't want to commit because either there afraid or messing with other people....at the same time...if you keep this up your going to end up in heart break if you continue to feel the way you do...about him....i know i don't know the guy....he might be different...but it sounds like he doesn't want to be held down from the responsiblities of a relationship from what i've heard...i hope you can see this comment as coming from a freind and i hope it doesn't shatter your hopes...