S T R E S S, wth am i supposed to do?? Options

[Respect_Me]

Ok, my Boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now, and he is REALLY insecure. We used to argue all the time when we first started going out again (we broke up for a couple months) because he was so insecure about me in public with a bunch of guys in sight. At school he was constantly telling me, "Nessa, pull up your shirt" or "Nessa, pull up your pants" or "Nessa, don't wear that anymore". And, yes, i would get upset because after a while, you'd start to feel like a little girl who NEEDs TO BE TOLD WHAT TO DO, right?? well we kinda lost touch with our friends too because we were ALWAYS together, and at one point in our relationship, i started feeling depressed because i felt like NOBODYwas there for me, i had no friends, i was always arguing with my boyfriend, and he wouldnt understand me. and not to mention, i had to hide my tears from anybody that walked in the room, ESPECIALLY my mom. i started to have no ambitions, or goals, for myself, and all i did was worry about if what i was doing was going to satisfy him... or make him mad? so one day, I just broke down and told him that i really need to have some friends, because hes not THERE for me like he should be, and its really not fair that i have to sit home, alone, while hes out with his friends, and he told me, that it was going to be okay, and that he wanted me to start trying to hang out with my gfs.

Okay, well heres the point finally: now, months later, I actually went to CHURCH with my long-lost best friend that i havent hung out with in a long time, and we went to the mall unexpectedly afterwards, and.... he got MAD AT ME! saying that im UNFAIR and that i ALWAYS "get mad at him" for hanging out with his friends, and that he wanted to spend time with me (even though this was early in the morning and i wouldnt be able to come over until later ANYWAY) and it just totally ruined my day, because EVERYTIME I have ANY FRIENDS AROUND, and i pay the LEAST amount of attention to them, he gets so madd at me... and like, he puts me under SO MUCH pressure to do the right thing when hes "NOT AROUND" that all i do is worry about him when im around ANYBODY. I told him that if we argue like that again, that we were going to take a break from each other for a little while, because im under so much stress from everyone in my family. and its ALL BECAUSE IM WITH HIM ALL THE TIME, and i STILL AM just to MAKE HIM HAPPY! guess what he said... "You're either with me,... or you're not." WHAT THE F*&$?!!! and then yesterday, he tried to take a break with me, because we started SLIGHTLY arguing because i wanted to go school-shopping with JUST my gfs . and he said "You said you need time for 'just yourself' sometimes, so this will give you the chance then"

WHAT THE HELL DOES HE EXPECT FROM ME! AM I THE ONLY ONE TRIPPIN HERE OR DOES IT SEEM LIKE WHAT I SAY TO HIM GOES IN ONE EAR AND OUT THE OTHER?! Its just that, when I feel depressed, and pressured from everyone, he makes it WORSE, and i DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, because if I TRY TO TAKE A BREAK, HE WONT LET ME... and its not like i want to break up with him, because we really love each other, its just that we have alot of problems we need to work out...

So, tell me, what do you guys think i should do...? because i sure in the hell dont know what to do without getting him more upset and not getting ANYTHING solved. Thank you so much for reading this, i havent let out this much stress in a LONG TIME...

[Respect_Me]

Thanx to all your guys's advice and input on what you think i should do! i really appreciate it all and makes me feel like some actually does care. But i talked to him last night and we both broke down and got emotional and i found out a few things that he never told me before, that he wanted from me, so we made an agreement that we would both get what we wanted from each other to keep each other feeling loved and supported and cared for. I guess we were both going through hard times, being depressed and all, and not being there for each other. and as for the person who said that there is no love in our relationship and that all he was to me was controlling, well... there IS love, no doubt about that, but all you've heard was a certain problem we were going through now from MY perspective. I dont want to make it sound like he doesnt love me, and i dont love him, because we LOVE each other SO MUCH, but all relationships have problems, right? and i dont want to quit this great thing i have with my boyfriend, just because of something that COULD be worked out. I mean, i cant sit here and explain the love that we have for each other, because you guys wouldnt get it or probably wouldnt care anyways. but i also wanted to say that i apologize for being defensive, and seeming unappreciative, but i guess it was just a very touchy situation for me.
THANKS TO EVERYONE AND IM VERY SORRY FOR GETTING DEFENSIVE