Easy but Hard Question: How Do You Make Friends?, Yup, this is the most juvenile question Options

[xx_Fashionista_x...]

Okay, thank the good creator that I've been blessed with best friends and friends all my life until now I am starting a new school without anybody from my school last year. I had many friends before because I've known the majority them since elementary school, and all it takes is a new barbie for someone to be your friend. I'm not really a "social" person without my friends. I'm not all that shy but I have a fear of people but then I have a fear of being alone. I just find it hard to approach someone and say "my name is Keely, can I eat lunch with you", I like being approached to people rather than talking to strangers. If you don't get what I'm saying, basically, this year I'm starting a brand new school with new people and I don't know nobody at all there, and I have no people skills ... any tips on making friends?

- I know it sounds really stupid but I had bad experiences trying to make friends at sleep away camp a few years ago, lol.

- I know I should let things happen naturally but I have a fear of not fitting in, and I'm a worry-wort to the extreme. I had a dream that I went to my new school and nobody noticed me at all and I couldn't sleep the rest of the night (or the next night)

- yes, lol, I know, I'm weird.

[xx_Fashionista_x...]

suddenly she, lol, you helped.

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for the first couple days I MIGHT hang out with my brother and his friends, but I don't want to be a pest and annoy him so I know I'll ahve to try to make some friends. I just hope I find some. I know what your'e going through, I'm a worry wort too, I jsut try not to think about it too much.

Lol, my brother has already told me that he doesn't want me to eat lunch with him for longer than 2 days. But I could understand my brother not wanting me to pester him because I would feel bad and embarrassed that he knew was a loser if if my brother was annoyed that I have nobody to hang out with. Well, it's nice to know that I'm not alone going through this, gosh I hate new schools. Like finding something to wear on the first day wasn't hard enough, now I need people to eat lunch with.

The first two days will probably be rough, you might not talk to anybody. I guess, just try to be yourself. I know, I am horrible at this.

Just let things flow, I am sure there will be somebody there that will be glad to meet and know you. Just try your best to say, "Hi" to someone. Pay attention on the first day.

I don't know..I'm horrible at this to. On my first day of 6th grade, I just didn't talk to anyone, I was just by myself, and I would blend in with other students. In about like, 5 days, I started to talk to more people, and now I have the coolest friends ever.

Hope things go out great for you!!  Good luck!!

Great advice. I suck at being myself, I just don't know who I am really when I'm in school. A part of me wants the students at my new school to be like me so I can blend in without the humiliation of not having friends, but then again I want to be different, because when I was in junior high, when a new girl came dressed totally different than everyone else, everyone wanted to talk to her because she stood out. I just don't want a neon sign over my head that says "Mrs Lonely right here, I have no friends here what-so-ever". Thanks, I hope this making friends thing works out, I have a few days left to worry myself to death until school starts,lol, but I'll survive (if my fear doesn't eat me alive)