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what kind of guys do girls like???, really
urbz
post Jul 18 2005, 01:44 AM
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jw, but what kind of guys do girls find attractive??? (look, pers., etc..)
 
 
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CrazayChristian
post Jul 21 2005, 12:43 AM
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You can fit it into to broad terms:

Strong
and
Sensitive

But, you can't be too sensitive, or you're screwed. You will be seen as an insecure pest that the girl will have to worry about.

In other words, when it comes down to one or the other. You need to be more STRONG than sensitive.

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The short long version:

You need to make her feel good. If she feels good then she'll like you.

And you say "Joshua, you idiot, that's simple" Ha..no.

Here's the catch:
You have to make her feel good, like noone else makes her feel good. In other words...
NOT THE SAME EASY WAY OUT!

You can't just do every little nice thing for her, and jump to the rescue when every little thing comes up. You can't just go into "instant empathy" when she's pissed or sad. WHY?

You become predictable, and boring.

Not making her feel very good...
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The long long version

You already need to know you need to make her feel good. Now, you need to make her feel good like noone else does.

LIEK OMG HOW JOSHUA?!?!?!?!?!1/1/1/1/SLASHONESLASH1

(Stop talking like that for one...) You need to have her attention, make yourself linger in her mind. Lets think of it this way:

Someone walks up to you, and says "Buy this, it's good!". Now, lets pretend you never heard the word good before, and you buy it.
Now, imagine after time, more people say "Buy this it's good!". At this rate, "good" has lost its meaning, and you're bored with "good". Sure, you might buy it if it looks interesting, has value, or you've heard good things about it. But, you're simply not going to buy evertime someone says "good" to you.

Now, imagine someone walks up to you and says " Buy this...you know..nevermind." You might turn around and say "Why aren't you selling me anything?" They respond "You don't seem very qualified for this product." Noone has ever said this to you! You aren't very happy, but you feel you should be given the chance, like you're power is beign challenged. So, the salesman asks you for a number, maybe you can call when you feel qualified.
Now, this guy has stood out to you, he challenged you, and you feel the need to meet this challenge. You call him, and decide to buy this product. It may not be as good as the other flashy products. But it makes you happy that you mastered something.

Let's take a look at what happend:
Product=relationship
You=Girl
Salesman=guys
"Buy this is good"=Adverage "W-will you go out with me?"
"You don't seem qualified"= Unique "I can take you or leave you, so take me before you miss your chance."

As you can see, something stands out here. Girls don't want you to be boring and adverage. It seems LOGICAL to put them on a pedestal, but ulitimatly it will land you in the "friends zone"

When you do adverage, you do the old "I'm not sure of myself, I like to beat around the bush, avoid problems, and wait on you hand and foot." And, this might work for a while. But, it eventually wears out. It becomes BORING AND PREDICTABLE. Just like you expecting everyone to say "buy this it's good".
You also can't do other versions like "But this, you'll like it"ect. You just can't make variations up.

If you do the old "I need you, and I'll wait forever for you" routine. Guess what? You'll wait...and wait...and WAIT. WHY? Because, she know's you'll always be there. You'll always obey like a good dog, and you'll always listen. You aren't relationship material anymore. You're a "friend" that will "always be there", and she doesn't need to pay any special attention, because you gave her so much slack that now, she's holding the leash.

SOLUTION:

You have to be Confident almost to the point of severe Cockiness. You have to be so sure you can suceed, that it doesn't matter if you lost once or twice, because you can always move on. Guys who "look good" or "athletic guys" ect. seem attractive because they have this mind set, they KNOW they can still go on, and don't have to worry if it goes any farther.
This however doesn't mean you have to make a total ASS of yourself. It just means that you should think you're all that, and you'll actually BE all that!

You also MUST be funny, you need to blend this with Confidence. If she can laugh, then she'll feel nice and confortable with you. It will also help you NOT become a total ASS.

HOWEVER, you can't be TOO confident (ASS) or TOO funny (Goof off who never takes anything seriously) BLEND this together.

HOW YOU CAN DO THIS:

Next time you want a girl to notice you, do something no other guy has done to her that day. Tease her.Or ask her a question that you can tease.
Example:

You:Hi
Her:er..hi
You:I've been meaning to ask you somthing.
her:Yes?
You: How do you feel about the whole "Womens Equality" thing. You know, sort of like "We can pay for our own meals" and stuff.
Her:(made up)Blah blah blah blah <HERE COMES A KEY WORD!>Guys Pay blah blah.
You: OH! So, you don't belive in equality?
Her: That's not it at all!
You: It sounds like all of it pretty clearly...

Something like this, what you want to do is find the KEY WORD/PHRASE of her sentence. And actually USE it in your own sentence. This not only shows/allows you listen, but you can use this later on and it drills in your memory.

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX:

Special techniques, such as when she's surrounded by friends, become useful to get her out of that group. Example:

Forceful: Hi, may I borrow her for a second?(Then take her out of the group) "I can't belive your friends would let you leave with a total stranger..."

Subtle(but funny): Hey, (Hand money) I need a drink, can you get that for me? thanks. (85% of the time, she'll be rather pissed and follow you to give your money back.(Yes...I've done this)(No, I don't care it was in Hitch)

Creative things make you stand out of a crowd. But, what really makes you stand out is your body language.

BODY LANGUAGE:

Most women will shoot you down before you ever open your mouth. No, it's not because your fat, no it's not because your fly is open, no, It's not because your hair sucks. It's because you instantly give off the signal that you are completely faking your confidence and you have no idea what you're doing.

We are Pre-Wired with sensors that read body language. We can't help it, they are just there. Women are scientifically calculated to be able to send and recieve Body signals 10 times better than men. So, is this important?
HELL YEAH!
This language is so subtle, that everything from the tone of your voice, to how you look, to how LONG you look, to how you hold something, is important. A friend of mine always holds his drink a certain way when he's trying to hook up with someone.

"Touch the middle of her back. But watch out, Too high means 'I just want to be friends' too low means 'I just want to grab some ass'"

-Hitch
This is serious stuff.

TIPS:

Edit:Avoid the "3 Too's"

Too fast
Too Much
Too soon

Too Fast- you go from "Hi" to "I love you" In days (or less)

Too much- You spill your heart out in days(or less)

Too soon(most important)-You do this all too SOON and ruin your chances by 85% or more.

Just don't rush it, and follow (yes another hitch quote)

"She may not want to see it ALL AT ONCE, but she does want to see it."-Hitch

You can do the romantic stuff. But don't find out her favorite restraunt and take her out there the next day. Wait as long as a few WEEKS then take her. It shows that you listened and you didn't just buy her company.

I'm not saying don't be romantic, I'm saying don't do every little thing that pop into your mind AS SOON AS IT POPS INTO YOUR HEAD. It will be less predictable and more "SUPRISE" that way.(/edit)

Make sure you don't take to fast. Infact, don't make any quick movements. That just shows you're nervous and can't handle yourself.
Make sure your voice isn't higher than normal. (You tense up and actually talk at a higher pitch when you're nervous. If anything you want to go a little lower)
Sit up, and maybe lean back a little. It'll show you're confidence, and if you slouch or look down too much, then you are saying "I'm lazy, insecure, and unsure of myself."

Use a mirror, you can look and see for yourself. If you are doing something wrong, then you'll know. It's natural.

IN CONCLUSION:

Edit: Avoid the "3 Too's"

"Any man has a chance to sweep ANY woman off her feet. Just needs the right broom."
-Hitch

In otherwords. Just make her feel good. Don't bore her.
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(Damn...I need to get some sleep...after all this)
(I have a bad feeling I didn't have to type all that...)

-Joshua
 

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urbz   what kind of guys do girls like???   Jul 18 2005, 01:44 AM
Latina Babii   I could name a few things i look for in a guy, he...   Jul 18 2005, 02:44 AM
anubis   that's a very general question. it definit...   Jul 18 2005, 03:06 AM
incoherent   QUOTE(anubis @ Jul 18 2005, 3:06 AM)that...   Jul 20 2005, 11:46 PM
xxslithr0atxx   yeah i think it's different for every girl but...   Jul 18 2005, 03:19 AM
Latina Babii   I don't go for HOT guys but I like them to be ...   Jul 18 2005, 03:57 AM
suddenly she   lalala, i'm bored so i'm going to write a ...   Jul 18 2005, 02:14 PM
Lo Mein   Use the search button =) It all depends on the gu...   Jul 18 2005, 02:27 PM
Chii   things girls find attractive in men: 1.) a good s...   Jul 18 2005, 09:49 PM
anubis   QUOTE(chii @ Jul 18 2005, 8:49 PM)things girl...   Jul 19 2005, 02:51 AM
supahstah_luv   wow.. chii up there's summed it up pretty good...   Jul 18 2005, 09:53 PM
maia_dc   What I look for: - Confidence. Yes, even confiden...   Jul 18 2005, 10:16 PM
Latina Babii   Technically a fair tale guy (there maybe some gy o...   Jul 19 2005, 01:41 AM
xldubaliciousx   Ahh. I used to always get in trouble for going for...   Jul 19 2005, 01:51 AM
berry_lickable   +good loking +nice to me and my friends +gotta be ...   Jul 19 2005, 01:59 AM
Frankie   it depends on teh girl. not all girls like sweet ...   Jul 19 2005, 12:56 PM
Kristinaa   Alright one time i was browsing around the boys lo...   Jul 19 2005, 01:00 PM
Paradox of Life   ^ Okay, missy. Brenden is mine. Anyway, no more...   Jul 19 2005, 01:13 PM
pinayprincess   somebody who is so caring and sweet.. but also has...   Jul 19 2005, 07:49 PM
Azn_Angel13   <3 a guy who is open and always tells her that ...   Jul 20 2005, 12:44 PM
Kristinaa   QUOTE^ Okay, missy. Brenden is mine.  I know...   Jul 20 2005, 01:55 PM
mipadi   QUOTE(sprinkle-the-stars @ Jul 20 2...   Jul 20 2005, 01:56 PM
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ishowernaked   thanks for describin me girls :) much appreciated ...   Jul 20 2005, 02:19 PM
mipadi   QUOTE(ishowernaked @ Jul 20 2005, 3:19 PM)tha...   Jul 20 2005, 02:34 PM
Kristinaa   ^ *sigh* Poor guy... I barely described you. Poor...   Jul 20 2005, 02:30 PM
JoJo_x   Depends on the girl... Anyways, any guy that is n...   Jul 20 2005, 02:40 PM
mistaken_identity   Nice-ness. I think that's what all girls reall...   Jul 20 2005, 10:46 PM
xXMomoBubbleTeaXx   Personaility -good listener -entertaining -easy to...   Jul 21 2005, 12:01 AM
CrazayChristian   You can fit it into to broad terms: Strong and Se...   Jul 21 2005, 12:43 AM
crazi_in_love_08   hmm well it definatly depends on the girl ... sum ...   Jul 22 2005, 08:14 AM
sheddingtears   he's cute, can talk so sweet, and can make a g...   Jul 25 2005, 09:51 PM
Smilessss   hmm lets c...wat kinda guy i go fo?...lol well her...   Aug 5 2005, 10:27 AM
mipadi   QUOTE(Smilessss @ Aug 5 2005, 11:27 AM)hmm le...   Aug 5 2005, 10:33 AM
dancingkait   for me he has to be kind, has a good sense of humo...   Aug 5 2005, 10:49 AM
gnarly_d00d   Hm, well, I like guys that are funny, intelligent,...   Aug 5 2005, 12:58 PM
iNyCxShoRT   If a guy can make me laugh I'm in love   Aug 5 2005, 01:06 PM
pyrochick19770   -Respectable -Loyal -Funny -Honest -Romantic -Laye...   Aug 5 2005, 01:06 PM
Shortiiex   for me -has to be cute...he doesn't have to be...   Aug 5 2005, 03:11 PM
YoUr HeRo   cute, funny, nice, not afaid to say how he is feel...   Aug 17 2005, 12:29 PM
cheerbee07   has to be - nice - not egotistical - friendly - un...   Aug 17 2005, 08:54 PM
Tiffany_Prep_Girl   nice, handsome, have money (maybe more than 50 dol...   Aug 28 2005, 05:18 PM
Atobe_Keigo   1 - Musical Talent - Piano or a bit of singing 2 -...   Aug 28 2005, 05:39 PM
jennypie   I tend to be attracted to guys who are honest, str...   Aug 29 2005, 02:09 AM
malimars   THE KIND OF GUY THAT IS WILLING TO SPREAD MY ASS C...   Sep 5 2005, 11:42 PM
Bianka2005   i like guys with long penises ...i like chewing th...   Sep 5 2005, 11:42 PM
L!ckitySplit   haha wow^ to the both of you   Sep 6 2005, 12:21 AM
CrazykidXD   idk   Oct 16 2005, 03:33 PM
andromeda_90   SK8ER BOYS!   Oct 16 2005, 03:37 PM
rinchan089   Well, for JUST physical attraction, Tall, Dark and...   Oct 16 2005, 05:26 PM
hulagurlie413   basically... - cute - nice - sweet - funny - does...   Oct 16 2005, 09:20 PM
aznhunnie6o1   I like guys that are funny, smart, and.. For some ...   Oct 16 2005, 11:08 PM
HoodieObsessed   For me... Personaility: - NOT OBSESSED WITH CARS...   Oct 17 2005, 02:45 PM
OverratedStupidity   I don't think any girl can completely say what...   Oct 17 2005, 04:11 PM
tequila_sky   funny, respectful, **faithfull**, smart and strong...   Oct 18 2005, 08:55 AM
_suzie_   ''19.) keep certain things to yourself: ye...   Oct 18 2005, 09:49 AM


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