what kind of guys do girls like???, really Options

[urbz]

jw, but what kind of guys do girls find attractive??? (look, pers., etc..)

[CrazayChristian]

You can fit it into to broad terms:

Strong
and
Sensitive

But, you can't be too sensitive, or you're screwed. You will be seen as an insecure pest that the girl will have to worry about.

In other words, when it comes down to one or the other. You need to be more STRONG than sensitive.

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The short long version:

You need to make her feel good. If she feels good then she'll like you.

And you say "Joshua, you idiot, that's simple" Ha..no.

Here's the catch:
You have to make her feel good, like noone else makes her feel good. In other words...
NOT THE SAME EASY WAY OUT!

You can't just do every little nice thing for her, and jump to the rescue when every little thing comes up. You can't just go into "instant empathy" when she's pissed or sad. WHY?

You become predictable, and boring.

Not making her feel very good...
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The long long version

You already need to know you need to make her feel good. Now, you need to make her feel good like noone else does.

LIEK OMG HOW JOSHUA?!?!?!?!?!1/1/1/1/SLASHONESLASH1

(Stop talking like that for one...) You need to have her attention, make yourself linger in her mind. Lets think of it this way:

Someone walks up to you, and says "Buy this, it's good!". Now, lets pretend you never heard the word good before, and you buy it.
Now, imagine after time, more people say "Buy this it's good!". At this rate, "good" has lost its meaning, and you're bored with "good". Sure, you might buy it if it looks interesting, has value, or you've heard good things about it. But, you're simply not going to buy evertime someone says "good" to you.

Now, imagine someone walks up to you and says " Buy this...you know..nevermind." You might turn around and say "Why aren't you selling me anything?" They respond "You don't seem very qualified for this product." Noone has ever said this to you! You aren't very happy, but you feel you should be given the chance, like you're power is beign challenged. So, the salesman asks you for a number, maybe you can call when you feel qualified.
Now, this guy has stood out to you, he challenged you, and you feel the need to meet this challenge. You call him, and decide to buy this product. It may not be as good as the other flashy products. But it makes you happy that you mastered something.

Let's take a look at what happend:
Product=relationship
You=Girl
Salesman=guys
"Buy this is good"=Adverage "W-will you go out with me?"
"You don't seem qualified"= Unique "I can take you or leave you, so take me before you miss your chance."

As you can see, something stands out here. Girls don't want you to be boring and adverage. It seems LOGICAL to put them on a pedestal, but ulitimatly it will land you in the "friends zone"

When you do adverage, you do the old "I'm not sure of myself, I like to beat around the bush, avoid problems, and wait on you hand and foot." And, this might work for a while. But, it eventually wears out. It becomes BORING AND PREDICTABLE. Just like you expecting everyone to say "buy this it's good".
You also can't do other versions like "But this, you'll like it"ect. You just can't make variations up.

If you do the old "I need you, and I'll wait forever for you" routine. Guess what? You'll wait...and wait...and WAIT. WHY? Because, she know's you'll always be there. You'll always obey like a good dog, and you'll always listen. You aren't relationship material anymore. You're a "friend" that will "always be there", and she doesn't need to pay any special attention, because you gave her so much slack that now, she's holding the leash.

SOLUTION:

You have to be Confident almost to the point of severe Cockiness. You have to be so sure you can suceed, that it doesn't matter if you lost once or twice, because you can always move on. Guys who "look good" or "athletic guys" ect. seem attractive because they have this mind set, they KNOW they can still go on, and don't have to worry if it goes any farther.
This however doesn't mean you have to make a total ASS of yourself. It just means that you should think you're all that, and you'll actually BE all that!

You also MUST be funny, you need to blend this with Confidence. If she can laugh, then she'll feel nice and confortable with you. It will also help you NOT become a total ASS.

HOWEVER, you can't be TOO confident (ASS) or TOO funny (Goof off who never takes anything seriously) BLEND this together.

HOW YOU CAN DO THIS:

Next time you want a girl to notice you, do something no other guy has done to her that day. Tease her.Or ask her a question that you can tease.
Example:

You:Hi
Her:er..hi
You:I've been meaning to ask you somthing.
her:Yes?
You: How do you feel about the whole "Womens Equality" thing. You know, sort of like "We can pay for our own meals" and stuff.
Her:(made up)Blah blah blah blah <HERE COMES A KEY WORD!>Guys Pay blah blah.
You: OH! So, you don't belive in equality?
Her: That's not it at all!
You: It sounds like all of it pretty clearly...

Something like this, what you want to do is find the KEY WORD/PHRASE of her sentence. And actually USE it in your own sentence. This not only shows/allows you listen, but you can use this later on and it drills in your memory.

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX:

Special techniques, such as when she's surrounded by friends, become useful to get her out of that group. Example:

Forceful: Hi, may I borrow her for a second?(Then take her out of the group) "I can't belive your friends would let you leave with a total stranger..."

Subtle(but funny): Hey, (Hand money) I need a drink, can you get that for me? thanks. (85% of the time, she'll be rather pissed and follow you to give your money back.(Yes...I've done this)(No, I don't care it was in Hitch)

Creative things make you stand out of a crowd. But, what really makes you stand out is your body language.

BODY LANGUAGE:

Most women will shoot you down before you ever open your mouth. No, it's not because your fat, no it's not because your fly is open, no, It's not because your hair sucks. It's because you instantly give off the signal that you are completely faking your confidence and you have no idea what you're doing.

We are Pre-Wired with sensors that read body language. We can't help it, they are just there. Women are scientifically calculated to be able to send and recieve Body signals 10 times better than men. So, is this important?
HELL YEAH!
This language is so subtle, that everything from the tone of your voice, to how you look, to how LONG you look, to how you hold something, is important. A friend of mine always holds his drink a certain way when he's trying to hook up with someone.

"Touch the middle of her back. But watch out, Too high means 'I just want to be friends' too low means 'I just want to grab some ass'"

-Hitch
This is serious stuff.

TIPS:

Edit:Avoid the "3 Too's"

Too fast
Too Much
Too soon

Too Fast- you go from "Hi" to "I love you" In days (or less)

Too much- You spill your heart out in days(or less)

Too soon(most important)-You do this all too SOON and ruin your chances by 85% or more.

Just don't rush it, and follow (yes another hitch quote)

"She may not want to see it ALL AT ONCE, but she does want to see it."-Hitch

You can do the romantic stuff. But don't find out her favorite restraunt and take her out there the next day. Wait as long as a few WEEKS then take her. It shows that you listened and you didn't just buy her company.

I'm not saying don't be romantic, I'm saying don't do every little thing that pop into your mind AS SOON AS IT POPS INTO YOUR HEAD. It will be less predictable and more "SUPRISE" that way.(/edit)

Make sure you don't take to fast. Infact, don't make any quick movements. That just shows you're nervous and can't handle yourself.
Make sure your voice isn't higher than normal. (You tense up and actually talk at a higher pitch when you're nervous. If anything you want to go a little lower)
Sit up, and maybe lean back a little. It'll show you're confidence, and if you slouch or look down too much, then you are saying "I'm lazy, insecure, and unsure of myself."

Use a mirror, you can look and see for yourself. If you are doing something wrong, then you'll know. It's natural.

IN CONCLUSION:

Edit: Avoid the "3 Too's"

"Any man has a chance to sweep ANY woman off her feet. Just needs the right broom."
-Hitch

In otherwords. Just make her feel good. Don't bore her.
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(Damn...I need to get some sleep...after all this)
(I have a bad feeling I didn't have to type all that...)

-Joshua