Losing one of my best friends., the unwillingness to forgive. Options

[ichiban]

It feels like I've just lost one of my best friends. I know he's really mad. But what could I have done? Here's the story, it's long, please read & help &/or pray. It'll mean the world to me.

Let's introduce them first. Names are changed.
There's the friend I think I've lost - Mark.
My other best friend - Kim
Other best friend - Seth
Out of everyone, I've known Mark the longest. Then I met Kim and Seth, and they became my best friends. We were all introduced to each other and eventually we sort of became the four musketeers? i guess that's a way to put it. the four of us literally did everything together. we hung out at school all the time and on weekends. But there was always conflict between Kim and Mark. I didn't exactly know why but they were sort of mean to each other. They'd slap and kick each other and call each other names and argue. I thought it was just jokes. Like they were just fooling around and it wasn't important. I never worried. But then, things got worse. They got into bigger fights and then one day Kim felt that she hated Mark. I know her well, and I know that if she hates someone, she'll hate them a lot. I can't exactly blame her, Mark was never very nice to her. I've tried making Mark treat her better, but he doesn't listen. Soon, Kim didn't even want to hang around Mark anymore. She didn't want to see him, listen to him, be around him, or anything. Mark never took it seriously, he didn't realize she was mad at him. I was just lost, I didn't know what to do. I knew that the four of us couldn't hang out together again, or at least until Kim decided she didn't hate Mark anymore. I still have no idea when that'll be, maybe forever.

A few nights ago we were planning on going to the harry potter party at a bookstore. At first Kim and I decided we wanted to go, just us. Then I told Mark I was going out of excitement, and then he wanted to go. When Kim found out, she told me she didn't want to go anymore, and I knew that the event was pretty important to her. I really didn't like the influence Mark had on her, but what could I have done? Well anyway, Kim told Seth about it and then he wanted to go. So Kim, Seth, and I were going to go. What about Mark? I really wanted Mark to go, I mean he's still my best friend and everything. But I didn't want Kim to have a bad night. I wanted her to have a good time too. So then Mark apologized to Kim for treating her like crap and everything. Kim thought that he was only apologizing because he wanted to go to the party. I mean, I thought so too, and so did Seth. Mark says it wasn't because of that, but it wasn't like I could convince Kim. But I guess for a while, maybe a few minutes, Kim wanted to forgive Mark. I don't know, but I had really hoped Kim would forgive Mark and Mark would really start acting better and we'd all be friends again. Didn't happen. Mark kept asking Kim about whether she forgived him or not, but I guess she eventually got annoyed and decided she wasn't going to forgive Mark and he only wanted to go to the party. Soon Mark got mad at Kim and he didn't feel sorry anymore. I knew that Mark really wanted to go, he seemed so excited by the sound of it. I was the one that was going to pick up Kim and Seth and take them to the bookstore. Mark told me to pick him up anyway, and he didn't care what Kim thought. But I didn't want Kim to get mad at me and have a horrible time. I didn't know what to do, at all. Pick up Mark and piss Kim off? Ditch Mark so Kim wouldn't get totally mad?

I ended up ditching Mark. I sort of didn't think he'd care too much because he doesn't take too many things seriously. So anyway, I went with Kim & Seth and had a good time. And when I came home, I got an instant message from Mark. He was typing in CAPS and was staying stuff like, "fine, just leave me. im just going to go to a party at Wendy's [wendy is this popular slutty girl that has had a crush on mark for around six months, but Kim, Seth, and I don't like her .. long story]. i don't need any of you. you suck."

Yeah. I know he's really mad at me. And I keep thinking that one day Mark just might ditch us permanently to go hang out with Wendy and all those popular kids. I'm scared that it'll go on like this forever. The fact that Kim, Mark, Seth, and I can't hang out together anymore without someone getting mad. The fact that we can't do anything together without leaving either Kim or Mark out. I can just see this friendship falling apart, and these are the best friends I've ever had in my life.

I just wish Kim could forgive Mark ... and Mark would be a whole lot nicer to her. I don't want to lose any of them as friends and sometimes this whole situation just frustrates me to a point where I want to trash a room and explode and etc.

Wow, that was long. I feel really sad now. I need someone to talk to but I don't know who. Maybe you? Hah, just kidding. Unless you want to. Lol, but um. Yeah.

What now?

[Latina Babii]

Wow I had the same problem, but I don't know, I let it work out, but, I wouldn't have ditched him, not when I told him he could go. Try asking them WHY they hate each other and if they have good reason, then find times to hang out with them seperatly. I hope that helped