dance, jazz, hip hop / modern dance Options

[bogalgirl]

i totally don't get why my dad unlike all other parents is so strong against modern dancing. he keeps thinking that if i start learning it and i like it, i'll end up going to discos. he said once u learn something u want to be gud at it and do ur best so same for this, and if u're gud and u enjoy it u wudn't dance at home, u will hang out and go to discos and later have more problems. im so fricken pissed, wtf is wrong with dancing. i don't get him. what shud i do. i can't fricken persuade him.

[starlette]

lol. Number one, no one goes to discos. They go to clubs. And number 2, people dont dance in clubs, they have sex with the air. Number three, you have to be 18 to get in some clubs, 21 to get in most, and by then, you will be old enough to do whatever the hell you want. SO! I say you present the logical points to your father, and explain to him that you want to do it to feel good and have fun, not to hump the air and act like a stripper. Promise him you wont go clubbing. Especially since you probably cant. Tell him you arent doing what he sees in music videos. You arent going to start taking extacy and run around in neon colored clothing whirling around glowsticks. Does he let you go to school dances? Tell him you just want to have fun, not have sex, get pregnant, do drugs, become a stripper, or pornstar, and wind up homeless. (so many parents seem to think everything leads to these things) Explain to him that if he forbids it, it will just push you to rebel and do worse things. If he gives you a little freedom of expression, then you wont abuse it. Make a deal with him. tell him if he will let you dance or whatever, that you wont do any of the things hes all paranoid about. tell him if you do step out of the line, that you have to stop and you will pay him back for all the lessons or whatever. Sign a contract. I know it sounds silly, but make him realise you are serious. do what I used to do. I would type up a cntrct, save the file, but print one (save it so you can chang eit later if needed) then bring it to him during a time he is calm and not busy, preferrably after a meal and not when a game or tv show he likes is on. Sit down with him like an adult and tell him exactly what you are willing to do, if he will meet you halfway. If he STILL says no, tell him hes a jerk and you dont love him anymore and run to your room and slam the door...



Well, you dont have to do the last part, it just sounded good lol. Good luck sweetie. And if all else fails, get a job, earn the money yourself, and do it that way. tell him you want to be taken more seriously and make more of your own decisions, so u got a job and you will do with that money what you want to do. but dont say it defiantly, cuz that will just piss him off. yeah. I'm done now.

[yOUCANtSEEmE]

lol.  Number one, no one goes to discos.  They go to clubs.  And number 2, people dont dance in clubs, they have sex with the air.  Number three, you have to be 18 to get in some clubs, 21 to get in most, and by then, you will be old enough to do whatever the hell you want.  SO!  I say you present the logical points to your father, and explain to him that you want to do it to feel good and have fun, not to hump the air and act like a stripper.  Promise him you wont go clubbing.  Especially since you probably cant.  Tell him you arent doing what he sees in music videos.  You arent going to start taking extacy and run around in neon colored clothing whirling around glowsticks.  Does he let you go to school dances?  Tell him you just want to have fun, not have sex, get pregnant, do drugs, become a stripper, or pornstar, and wind up homeless. (so many parents seem to think everything leads to these things)  Explain to him that if he forbids it, it will just push you to rebel and do worse things.  If he gives you a little freedom of expression, then you wont abuse it.  Make a deal with him.  tell him if he will let you dance or whatever, that you wont do any of the things hes all paranoid about.  tell him if you do step out of the line, that you have to stop and you will pay him back for all the lessons or whatever.  Sign a contract.  I know it sounds silly, but make him realise you are serious.  do what I used to do.  I would type up a cntrct, save the file, but print one (save it so you can chang eit later if needed) then bring it to him during a time he is calm and not busy, preferrably after a meal and not when a game or tv show he likes is on.  Sit down with him like an adult and tell him exactly what you are willing to do, if he will meet you halfway.  If he STILL says no, tell him hes a jerk and you dont love him anymore and run to your room and slam the door...
Well, you dont have to do the last part, it just sounded good lol.  Good luck sweetie.  And if all else fails, get a job, earn the money yourself, and do it that way.  tell him you want to be taken more seriously and make more of your own decisions, so u got a job and you will do with that money what you want to do.  but dont say it defiantly, cuz that will just piss him off.  yeah.  I'm done now. 

i agree.
that is like everything i wanted to say. although i wouldnt have thought up the contract thing. maybe i should start using that...