beating around the bush, its what it always is Options

[expoised]

i have to take my frustration out somewhere. might as well be here.

basically i like this guy, and he keeps hinting that he likes me. and then he goes on to tell me about this incredible date he had the other day, and just to get back i tell him about the incredible guy that i have a humongous crush on (which i don't... i basically drag back old crushes and rub it in his face). and so it goes back and forth and back and forth.

and then... we were joking around and so i asked him out (b/c it was a joke... inside joke with someone else. really weird, but yeah). and he's like "OF COURSE I WANNA GO OUT WITH YOU" (but it was a joke... see?) and then we're like laughing about it and inside i'm thinking "but... i'm serious". and i have no clue what he's thinking.

and i really wanna say something, but i dont wanna ruin this incredible friendship that we have. and so its all frustrating.

idk if that made sense... hey, it's 1am give me a break.

[*anubis*]

...basically i like this guy, and he keeps hinting that he likes me.

HOW do you know that he actually likes you? was it an assumption?

i've had a lot of experience with this kinda drama over the years because, frankly, girls and guys just don't think exactly the same.

like, for example, one of my guy friends--who shall remain nameless was SO dense that he made a girl think that he liked her without even knowing when he didn't. he was like "why would she think i liked her? all i did was wait for her in front of her classes every day, walk her to her locker and classes, and hug her any time i can. why would she think i was leading her on?"

and i was like.. "dude. you're an effing dumbass. that shows a girl that you want her."

and then i asked him if he liked her and he was like "no. i only tihnk of her as friends."

and that's the problem with it. like guys may do stuff that, to girls, means "oh i like you. i want you" kinda things but to guys don't mean anything at all.

so maybe he only thinks of you as a friend but you're taking it more seriosuly than it really is.

and as for trying to make him jealous. definitely not a very good idea. i admit it, most guys are dumbasses, shitheads, w/e. we just DONT get the message.

if you tell him about how much you like this other guy, guys dont see through the message. they actually see it as you REALLY liking the guy--making him BACK OFF OF you if he wanted you in the first place. and if he didn't, it wouldn't make a difference. that's a lose/lose situation.

and asking him out? i think he was kidding about the answer. guys are like that. if he's the nice-guy type, he wont tell you he doesn't like you. if he sees your advances, he may return them just to be polite--but he might not mean them.

he goes on to tell me about this incredible date he had the other day

and as for that. he probably means that as reality. i don't think he's trying to tease you or anything. guys don't usually play mind games like that. we're usually more straightforward.

just..the fact that he would tell you something like that probably means he only sees you as a friend. guys wouldn't usually tell girls they like about other girls.

what i find funny is that guys don't pay attention enough to girls' actions--as obvious as they may be, whereas, girls overanalyze guys. really--to understand a guy isn't that hard. guys aren't usually too deceiving and what you see, in most cases, is usually what you get. nothing hidden under the table. but girls think of guys' actions as more than what they are. just don't think too much about it. if he calls you a lot or gets all touchy-feely with you, it doesn't mean he wants to marry you. you know what i mean?

i don't know... just hope this helps somewhat.

[angelrevelation]

like, for example, one of my guy friends--who shall remain nameless was SO dense that he made a girl think that he liked her without even knowing when he didn't. he was like "why would she think i liked her? all i did was wait for her in front of her classes every day, walk her to her locker and classes, and hug her any time i can. why would she think i was leading her on?"

wow... that is just... wow

try to think of him as just being friendly, and see if he still seems like he likes you. as anubis/dustin said, i guess he might just feel comfortable with talking about that stuff with you (so... basically only as a friend). was that confusing?