Fighting for his attention Options

[ladystarr]

I love my boyfriend a lot and I know he loves me too, but our lives are so busy that sometimes I feel ignored. Some info about us...we've been going out for about a year now we're both 20 turning 21 this year. I live with two roommates, while he still lives with his family. Unfortunately, his mom passed away a couple months ago so his family is important to him (they're important to me too!), but its hard for us to make alone time together. Here's a peek at our schedules:

mon/tues/wed: work, summer school (evening class), then he goes home to take care of his family and I go with him to help them out too. We do homework and just chill at home with his sisters (age 4 and 17). Their dad works the graveyard shift so my bf is the man of the house and can't really go out those days.
^ For mon/tues/wed I UNDERSTAND that we can't have that alone time and I'm okay with spending time with his family.

thurs: we both work, go home our separate ways and then go out with FRIENDS.

fri: His day off and he does his homework and I'm working, but I get off at 4pm. SO WHY NOT SPEND ALONE TIME TOGETHER? I don't know...help!

sat: My day off and I do my homework. AND his dad has a day off. SO WHY NOT SPEND ALONE TIME TOGETHER? I don't know...help!

sun: we both work, spend family time & do homework.

Am I being selfish? even if it was just for two hours on a fri or sat? We always have this argument that I DON'T UNDERSTAND his situation, when I ALWAYS try to help his family out too. Maybe its cuz he still lives with his family and I'm independent. Even though we basically have the same schedule, I feel like I have more time on my hands because I don't have my own family to worry about. I guess he feels like his family deserves ALL his attention and to me I feel like I get the leftover attention. Like if I want to spend time with him then I have to spend it with him and his family or with him and our friends. It just never is...US TWO.

[ladystarr]

thanks for all the advice guys! we did talk and there were a lot of tears, but everything is fine for now. We're both in college and we basically have 2 years left. He's just trying to spend as much time with his family as possible before he moves on with his life. In two years he might find a job somewhere far away from them or we might move closer to my family. But yeah, he broke down...and told me that he regrets not spending enough time with his mom while she was still alive...He told me he's scared of losing me 'cuz I'm looking for something he can't give me right now, which is the time and attention I want, but I wouldn't break up with him because of that I love him too much. So I figured that we're still young, we're still in school and until we both graduate...family will be most important.

So on Friday...(7/2) I slept over at his place and then after work on sat (7/3) I cooked dinner and we spent a good couple hours together. Everything worked out...=)