Fighting for his attention Options

[ladystarr]

I love my boyfriend a lot and I know he loves me too, but our lives are so busy that sometimes I feel ignored. Some info about us...we've been going out for about a year now we're both 20 turning 21 this year. I live with two roommates, while he still lives with his family. Unfortunately, his mom passed away a couple months ago so his family is important to him (they're important to me too!), but its hard for us to make alone time together. Here's a peek at our schedules:

mon/tues/wed: work, summer school (evening class), then he goes home to take care of his family and I go with him to help them out too. We do homework and just chill at home with his sisters (age 4 and 17). Their dad works the graveyard shift so my bf is the man of the house and can't really go out those days.
^ For mon/tues/wed I UNDERSTAND that we can't have that alone time and I'm okay with spending time with his family.

thurs: we both work, go home our separate ways and then go out with FRIENDS.

fri: His day off and he does his homework and I'm working, but I get off at 4pm. SO WHY NOT SPEND ALONE TIME TOGETHER? I don't know...help!

sat: My day off and I do my homework. AND his dad has a day off. SO WHY NOT SPEND ALONE TIME TOGETHER? I don't know...help!

sun: we both work, spend family time & do homework.

Am I being selfish? even if it was just for two hours on a fri or sat? We always have this argument that I DON'T UNDERSTAND his situation, when I ALWAYS try to help his family out too. Maybe its cuz he still lives with his family and I'm independent. Even though we basically have the same schedule, I feel like I have more time on my hands because I don't have my own family to worry about. I guess he feels like his family deserves ALL his attention and to me I feel like I get the leftover attention. Like if I want to spend time with him then I have to spend it with him and his family or with him and our friends. It just never is...US TWO.

[steezahh]

you probably already do this. but every minute he's free spend time with him. talk to him. even if you cant see him everyday. just text message a little note that he'll remember you by. hope this helps.