Fighting for his attention Options

[ladystarr]

I love my boyfriend a lot and I know he loves me too, but our lives are so busy that sometimes I feel ignored. Some info about us...we've been going out for about a year now we're both 20 turning 21 this year. I live with two roommates, while he still lives with his family. Unfortunately, his mom passed away a couple months ago so his family is important to him (they're important to me too!), but its hard for us to make alone time together. Here's a peek at our schedules:

mon/tues/wed: work, summer school (evening class), then he goes home to take care of his family and I go with him to help them out too. We do homework and just chill at home with his sisters (age 4 and 17). Their dad works the graveyard shift so my bf is the man of the house and can't really go out those days.
^ For mon/tues/wed I UNDERSTAND that we can't have that alone time and I'm okay with spending time with his family.

thurs: we both work, go home our separate ways and then go out with FRIENDS.

fri: His day off and he does his homework and I'm working, but I get off at 4pm. SO WHY NOT SPEND ALONE TIME TOGETHER? I don't know...help!

sat: My day off and I do my homework. AND his dad has a day off. SO WHY NOT SPEND ALONE TIME TOGETHER? I don't know...help!

sun: we both work, spend family time & do homework.

Am I being selfish? even if it was just for two hours on a fri or sat? We always have this argument that I DON'T UNDERSTAND his situation, when I ALWAYS try to help his family out too. Maybe its cuz he still lives with his family and I'm independent. Even though we basically have the same schedule, I feel like I have more time on my hands because I don't have my own family to worry about. I guess he feels like his family deserves ALL his attention and to me I feel like I get the leftover attention. Like if I want to spend time with him then I have to spend it with him and his family or with him and our friends. It just never is...US TWO.

[enyceXaddiction]

no its not selfish AT ALL. you just want to spend more time with your bf. give it some time. since his mother passed away its must be REALLY HARD for him. and you've obviously done whatever you can for both him and his family so that just shows how a genours gf yyou are. he'll come around and return the favor if not you have to have a serious talk.