Fighting for his attention Options

[ladystarr]

I love my boyfriend a lot and I know he loves me too, but our lives are so busy that sometimes I feel ignored. Some info about us...we've been going out for about a year now we're both 20 turning 21 this year. I live with two roommates, while he still lives with his family. Unfortunately, his mom passed away a couple months ago so his family is important to him (they're important to me too!), but its hard for us to make alone time together. Here's a peek at our schedules:

mon/tues/wed: work, summer school (evening class), then he goes home to take care of his family and I go with him to help them out too. We do homework and just chill at home with his sisters (age 4 and 17). Their dad works the graveyard shift so my bf is the man of the house and can't really go out those days.
^ For mon/tues/wed I UNDERSTAND that we can't have that alone time and I'm okay with spending time with his family.

thurs: we both work, go home our separate ways and then go out with FRIENDS.

fri: His day off and he does his homework and I'm working, but I get off at 4pm. SO WHY NOT SPEND ALONE TIME TOGETHER? I don't know...help!

sat: My day off and I do my homework. AND his dad has a day off. SO WHY NOT SPEND ALONE TIME TOGETHER? I don't know...help!

sun: we both work, spend family time & do homework.

Am I being selfish? even if it was just for two hours on a fri or sat? We always have this argument that I DON'T UNDERSTAND his situation, when I ALWAYS try to help his family out too. Maybe its cuz he still lives with his family and I'm independent. Even though we basically have the same schedule, I feel like I have more time on my hands because I don't have my own family to worry about. I guess he feels like his family deserves ALL his attention and to me I feel like I get the leftover attention. Like if I want to spend time with him then I have to spend it with him and his family or with him and our friends. It just never is...US TWO.

[left_alone]

Why doesn't anyone get this? I have told many people over and over about this one magical word: Talk.

Talk to him and tell him how you feel. It's not good to keep things bottled inside of you. When you tell him how you really feel - then you can discuss having alone time.

It can be hard for your boyfriend since his mom passed away. Guys don't really like to show that they are feeling down. This could be why he is so involved with taking care of his family. Comfort him more often and re-assure him that his family will be alright. After this bad period in his life is over, I'm sure he will be more commited to spending time with you.

Yes, it does seem akward that on Friday and Saturday you two don't spend time with each other. That's why you need to talk to him.
It's just another dis-advantage of living with your boyfriend.

good luck. love can be tough.