seriously about to cry, about to loose someone i luv Options

[sweetest-emotion]

so here's my story, i'll try to sum it up for you, it will get confusing so here goes:
my "boyfriend" and i were going out for a month. the first weeks were AMAZING. i've never felt so loved and wnated by anyone else in my life, and i actually was happy for once. i got those butterflies in my stomach and we would talk on the phone for 3 hours at a time. then came the zoo...
i was goin to the zoo with my best friend and her bf, who was my bf's best friend, but my boyfriend backed out cuz he "didn't want to deal with them", it hurt, and i felt left hanging. i told him and he just shurgged it off. it was wierd after that, we didn't seem to have the kind of hottness we had b4. he barely touched me or embraced me like he did before. even less then before we were going out! so i confronted him and here's the excuse he gave me...
he said that he wasn't all comfortable with the title of "boyfriend". yea i'm confused too. he said that he's wanted a serious relationship with someone for so long, that when it was finally in front of him, he jumped the gun without really thinking things through. he's told me he likes me soo much (yea borderline love), and that he still cares. it hurt me soo much, cuz now i'm thinking back to all of those times he's said that i'm beuatiful, he'll never let me go, i'm amazing, u kno all the stuff that really made me feel special. now, i think those were for nothing. he was so amazed that so many guys i've liked have only liked me back as a friend, and he said that he could never be that ass. well....he's starting to become one.
now its so weird around him. he said that he was afriad to loose me completely and that he never wants to see us sperated, i guess friendship-wise. it just SUX so much that i still love him, and that now i'm waiting for him to make up his damn mind.
any thoughs on what's goin on????

[CrazayChristian]

Yes, well, he sounds like he really does care. But, he sounds like he's scared.

Has he had a bad past? You know, loved and lost? That is a big issue I've seen with guys that just love so deeply but are scared to get that far.
It sounds to me that he's just not confortable with himself, I mean, I've been in the same situation. He KNEW what he wanted, but he couldn't handle it. If you reassure him that everything is ok, and that he doesn't have to be unconfortable, then maybe things will lighten up.

However, I do agree that you should NOT wait for him. He needs to know that he has to make up his mind or he'll lose something he cares about.

All in all, be gentle but forceful. He sounds like a sensitive soul to me. I don't think he's had feelings like this before, and having them answered back is just putting him in shock. Give it time...just not too much.

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Yes, well, he sounds like he really does care. But, he sounds like he's scared.

Has he had a bad past? You know, loved and lost? That is a big issue I've seen with guys that just love so deeply but are scared to get that far.
It sounds to me that he's just not confortable with himself, I mean, I've been in the same situation. He KNEW what he wanted, but he couldn't handle it. If you reassure him that everything is ok, and that he doesn't have to be unconfortable, then maybe things will lighten up.

However, I do agree that you should NOT wait for him. He needs to know that he has to make up his mind or he'll lose something he cares about.

All in all, be gentle but forceful. He sounds like a sensitive soul to me. I don't think he's had feelings like this before, and having them answered back is just putting him in shock. Give it time...just not too much.

wow, i agree