want him to die..., sister b/f... Options

[Lightner]

omg i hate him and i want him to die and go to hell!!! im sick of his shit!!!!!!!! lemme explain the simple story to you. MY sister and him have been going out for like 2 years and he always scream at her and stuff and cussing and im effing tired of it. my sister will either come home crying, or she will be home and he calls and cusses and yells at her. he ruins all of our damn vacations and i cant take it much longer. when my sister is with him, she is in a worse mood.... i just want him to die. I swear if he ever gets phischally violent with m sister by assaultin her, I do not know what i would do to him. Just now he was waiting outside and when my sister came out he drove off cussing at her out his window and stuff... then my sister came in crying and called him. im tired of them fighting, when he is mean to her, she is mean to the rest of the family. She just got back from ARizona and she was all happy.....

so yesterday around midnight he came with us... sat beside me... to pick her up from airport.... I dont know what to do..... I told amber I hate him, she says she will dump him but she never does.... what should i do?.....

[Chii]

but if hes so mean to her why dont she really dump him? i dont get her. there must be something bwtween them that you dont know

people don't become involved in abusive relationships because they want someone to beat them and belittle them, it's because they're scared of what's going to happen, they're too weak. they either stay because they don't want to be alone, they're afraid they might end up dead if they do leave and in this case, they don't want to throw away the relationship because they've been together for 2 years.


you have to sit your sister down and talk to her about all of this. until she really looks at the problem it's going to keep going on. you could tell your parents and maybe they can file an order of protection (i forgot what they're called) so he can't be within a certain number of yard radius of her.