opposites..., and communcation.. Options

[SpedMonkee]

i searched and i found things on communication, but nothing that i really needed (sorry)

well me and my g/f will have been going out for 4 months on saturday (june 18), and recently we have been having a bit of some problems. we are just about complete opposites (i like coke, she likes pepsi. i like rock, she likes rap. etc. and the list goes on..) just today, while sitting through one of those silent conversations on aim.., she comes up talking about how we never seem to find anything to talk about, which is true.

she chalks it up to us not having anything in common, which either we dont or we cant figure out one. now she sort of expects ME to do something about it.. i said that maybe it might help if i took more interest in the things she likes, which i am totally willing to do, but she said no. she believes that i shouldnt have to change even though we arnt able to have a conversation much because of it.. then i called her a little while after, like she asked me to, and we just sat there on the phone in dead silence for about 15-20 min (which its never that bad) before i told her that i couldnt take the silence anymore and that i would call her the next day..

i guess what im asking here is there any way through this really? cuz now that its out in the open if it doesnt get resolved its just going to get worse.. and now i feel like our communcation is a bit worse because of it and i even feel like its going to be harder to talk to her period...

and the ironic thing is that this comes a day after we spend our longest time on the phone talking (which of course she says she cant seem to remember...)

[silver-rain]

I've gone through that same thing with my boyfriend, where I once thought that we never talked and we don't have anything in common, etc. Well, just try to be interested in her interests, develop new interests and talk to her about them. Share your interests, and talk about yourselves, your day, your goals, dreams, etc. Just start talking about anything, and maybe she'll go along with it.
And silences on the phone isn't too bad, unless it's an awkward one. I personally don't like them, so my boyfriend and I rarely talk on the phone for long.