opposites..., and communcation.. Options

[SpedMonkee]

i searched and i found things on communication, but nothing that i really needed (sorry)

well me and my g/f will have been going out for 4 months on saturday (june 18), and recently we have been having a bit of some problems. we are just about complete opposites (i like coke, she likes pepsi. i like rock, she likes rap. etc. and the list goes on..) just today, while sitting through one of those silent conversations on aim.., she comes up talking about how we never seem to find anything to talk about, which is true.

she chalks it up to us not having anything in common, which either we dont or we cant figure out one. now she sort of expects ME to do something about it.. i said that maybe it might help if i took more interest in the things she likes, which i am totally willing to do, but she said no. she believes that i shouldnt have to change even though we arnt able to have a conversation much because of it.. then i called her a little while after, like she asked me to, and we just sat there on the phone in dead silence for about 15-20 min (which its never that bad) before i told her that i couldnt take the silence anymore and that i would call her the next day..

i guess what im asking here is there any way through this really? cuz now that its out in the open if it doesnt get resolved its just going to get worse.. and now i feel like our communcation is a bit worse because of it and i even feel like its going to be harder to talk to her period...

and the ironic thing is that this comes a day after we spend our longest time on the phone talking (which of course she says she cant seem to remember...)

[Winter]

My boyfriend and I are as different as day and night. We like a lot of different things. I'd say the only thing we have in common is our passion for Korean music.

But I think that's what makes things work with us. We have so much to talk about because we enjoy different things. We playfully argue about a lot of stuff.

I guess opposite attracts. But maybe for you guys, that doesn't work. You guys don't have to focus on your differences. Surely you have something in common you can talk about.

I don't think silent phone calls are a bad thing. Sometimes it's nice just knowing someone is there. Even after 2 years, there are times when my boyfriend and I have awkward silences during our phone call. Usually one of us will just start a topic and go wild. ~_-