Best way.., to screw a relationship up Options

[SpedMonkee]

ok, im a bit tired of hearing about the same things on this forum over and over again so i thought id do something a little different.

What do you all feel is the best way to totally screw up a relationship? It doesnt even have to be the best way to screw it up, just things that you know will make it so it wont last. ex.: lying and not trusting each other, not communicating, etc.

[madchenallein]

All those are 'good' ways, but they are symptoms, not causes. I'd say the supreme cause is poor communication-that is: insincerity, dishonesty, not being forthright (bringing up something that's bothering you rather than waiting to be asked what's bothering you) and nagging.

Think about it.

If someone cheats on you, the problem is they were unsatisfied for some reason, or they had an impulse they were unwilling to let you know about and they acted on it. Prevention:
--'Sweetie, I've been feeling attracted to X'
Sweetie: 'Why is that?'
--'Because she/he seems mysterious.'
Sweetie: 'Well, what do you think might add some mystery to our relationship, roleplaying? frequency? positions?'
--'Hmmm, roleplaying sounds interesting, let's talk about that.' Conversation proceeds from there, situation averted.

If someone abuses you, the problem can be that they have emotional damage from a previous relationship. However, this should never escalate to physical violence, emotional and verbal violence is bad enough. When a relationship reaches the stage when the two involved cannot discuss an issue or problem reasonably and respectfully, then it is time to talk about why, and if that doesn't happen, then time to terminate the relationship.

And so on and so on.