Sex and Health Quandary, Open relationship and risky behavior Options

[madchenallein]

Hey,

I'm in an open marriage. My husband has permission to play around and, he says I can too, but I don't (I used to, but lost interest, got blood tested, got a clean bill of health and I am now monogamous). We live temporarily in a foreign country and recently my husband had a spur of the moment encounter (vaginal intercourse) with a woman from this country who was menstruating at the time. He did not use a condom. That is against the guidlines of our agreement and he apologized for it. However, we know nothing about this woman other than she is not married and approximately 28 years old. We don't even know her last name. My question is, as his wife of 7 years, is it unreasonable to insist he get bloodwork done and not have sex with him until his bloodwork comes back clean? What should I do. If you are willing to reply honestly to this post, consider including your age in your post please, all opinions are welcome.

Thanks.

[sammi rules you]

i'm 15. but don't take that into account..

i would definitely have him tested. you're not even in your own country, so things your immune systems aren't used to could be introduced into both of you. if he does have a life-threatening disease, you wouldn't want it to be introduced to you.