Sex and Health Quandary, Open relationship and risky behavior Options

[madchenallein]

Hey,

I'm in an open marriage. My husband has permission to play around and, he says I can too, but I don't (I used to, but lost interest, got blood tested, got a clean bill of health and I am now monogamous). We live temporarily in a foreign country and recently my husband had a spur of the moment encounter (vaginal intercourse) with a woman from this country who was menstruating at the time. He did not use a condom. That is against the guidlines of our agreement and he apologized for it. However, we know nothing about this woman other than she is not married and approximately 28 years old. We don't even know her last name. My question is, as his wife of 7 years, is it unreasonable to insist he get bloodwork done and not have sex with him until his bloodwork comes back clean? What should I do. If you are willing to reply honestly to this post, consider including your age in your post please, all opinions are welcome.

Thanks.

[topsyturvy]

Even though i'm clueless about half the things you've talked about, i say you make him get a blood test. If what he did was against your marriage guidelines, then why not?


Btw what are open marriages?? Marriages where you're allowed to play around with someone other than your spouse?? If that's what they are, i don't see any point in them.. People get married to stay committed to that person, right?

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Btw what are open marriages??  Marriages where you're allowed to play around with someone other than your spouse?? If that's what they are, i don't see any point in them..  People get married to stay committed to that person, right?

i agree, well i guess it's good that you trust the other person so much that you're in an open marriage
anyways, i suggest you ask him to get his bloodwork done just to be on the safe side.