Should I Stay True To Myself, or b the person they want me 2 b... |
 May 2 2005, 08:07 PM
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Okay...heres the thing....i'm in 8th grade and the year is comming to an end, and i dont know waht to do about next year...but it's kinda hard to explain
see...the year before (in 7th grade) i was totally into the whole pop punk scene and i loved to look like all the "kool punk rockers" i chopped my beautiful shoulder length brown hair off into my spikes and traded my belly shirts and hip huggers for baggy jeans and "bondage pants"...concert/band tees because my obbsesion...and i loved my style...i never called myself a punk, but every else did and they call started called me a poser...and it eventually got to me... so by the time 7th grade ended and 8th grade rolled around i kept the chains and black clothes in the closet and on the shevles! i became the person all the people wanted me to be and would accpet me for!! i was a cheerleader in 7th and 8th grade and i will be a cheerleader for my fresman year as well....but anyways....i put my old low risers back on and started acting like the "preppy popular cheerleader" wannabe that they thought was right for me to be....and i eventually got use to it and settled into it, not thinking of being ture to myself... I still kept my old pop punk albums...but i also started "busting a move" to the hip hop stuff all the other gurls listened to... another reason for all my change was that "punk" was now the "in thing" to be/do/ listen to...and i was sick of the preppy people stealing the image of what "punks" stood for. i saw it in all the preppy stores and more and more popular drama queens and quarterbacks made it look sooooo kool....it literally made me gag....so i figured i would stop being who i loved to be so that i wouldnt look like a follower or be blamed for being fake... so...now as my 8th grade year is comming to an end and my freshman year will start sooner than i know it...i'm torn between my duel personalites.... i dont know if i should go back to my pop punk roots or if i should continue to hide behind my image of the all american cheerleader...i really really really deep inside want to go back to the old heather who i really knew and wasnt afraid of being "all punked out"....yet then again, i dont want to be called another steriotype or a trader (i would loose alot of my friends to this...who i'm sure are only using me anyways) i know this sounds almost like i'm already decided what i want to do...but to tell you the truth i'm almost scared out of my mind....and i dont want to break the steriotypes more than i have to... theres a lot more to this than what i'm posting above....and i want to get some of your oppinions on what to do with my future.... it would be nice to get some posative and neggitive feedback from this... thanks so much for reading this all HeatherLee 
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Jun 3 2005, 03:33 PM
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I don't want to call you stupid, but your dilemma is slightly silly.
Dress how you want to dress. Talk to who you want to talk to. Act how you want to act. If people reject you based on your style, you don't really need to be talking to them, now, do you? I'm not going to write pros and cons for you, because there are no actual pros and cons. You wear what you want to wear, you act how you want to act, and you retain yourself. You lose "friends" but you keep friends. You dress how they want you to dress, you act how they want you to act, and you become a follower. One way or another, you're going to look like a follower of one stereotype or another, but if you choose to wear what you like, rather than what other people like, then it's simply a style that you enjoy, rather than the consumption of your entire self. It's not worth faking anything just to be with people who are faking their friendships. If you're going to lose friends over the way you dress, are they really your friends? You can be a cheerleader no matter how you dress. The people who don't think so will learn that eventually. |
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even though its hard.
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