my friend is pregnant Options

[ItzOnlySydney]

ok so my friend heather is about a month or two pregnant. and she keeps asking me what to do and i don't know what to tell her. the father says he wants her to keep it but she just turned 15 and she is such a pretty and smart girl and she has her whole life ahead of her. gosh she keeps asking me for advice and idk what to tell her because i've never been pregnant before so basically it all boils down to one question :
abortion, adoption, or keep it?

this is her btw:

[dragyn]

I can only say what I would do. I would never want to force my opinions and choices on anyone, but it's nice to have examples to follow, I know.

I take this topic very seriously, I have thought I was pregnant before, and I have resolved that I would never abort, unless I was raped, or there were terrible complications with the pregnancy. And even than, maybe not.

I believe very strongly that anyone who willingly put themself in a situation in which they can get pregnant should never consider aborting, unless it was their life at risk because of the pregnancy. I fully understand that I don't know the situation under which your friend got pregnant, though I am guessing by the way you phrase it that she was willing. Also, the fact that she even asks you what to do implies that she wasn't raped, because I know most women(/girls) would want any seed of someone evil enough to do that out of them immediately, despite the fact that a child will not necessarily be like the father. Also, I doubt that anyone who has an abortion will be able to live peacefully without the guilt. Even people that have miscarriages often blame themselves.

I suggest that she plan for adoption, but she shouldn't decide completely until after she has the baby, because some people simply can't give up the baby. Second, if she is a strong supporter of same-sex couples, I suggest she specifically look for a gay couple to give the baby to. If she is strongly against homosexuality, don't even think about suggesting that to her, however, it is far more difficult for gay couples to find a child to adopt.

If she does decide to keep the baby, I think it is important that she stay in school, at least some kind of school, and try not to throw away her education the way a lot of young mothers do. She would have to find a way to keep her child safe while she is at school, if they will not let her take it to school with her (they probably wont). Also, if she keeps the baby, she does not need to go looking for a father to the baby, even though a father is good for a child, that kind of thinking has gotten many women caught up with bad men.

Most importantly, (even though I'm sure your friend can think for herself) it is good for people to hear their options from other people. Tell your friend all of her options, and make sure you tell her both the good and bad of every choice. Though adoption is not for me, and several other girls, it may be for her, and just because I feel it is wrong does not mean I wish to limit her choices in such a situation. Despite what you think is right, this is her decision. If you choose for her, and something goes wrongly, not only will you always blame yourself, but she might blame you as well.

She may not like it incredibly much that you have put her picture on the internet, though I don't know your friend, or whether she would mind or not.

Also, it might me a good idea to let her read this thread, and hear the opinions and ideas of everyone. It may not help whatsoever, but it could do wonders.