how to break up Options

[lilpimpette]

Ok. I want to break up with my boyfriend, Anthony. Problem is, how? Anthony has anger problems, and is real attached to whoever he goes out with. Thats what I learned the hard way. He is really sensitive and I don't want to hurt his feelings.

For awhile our relationship just wasn't working out. Even though we would exchange hugs and "I love you"'s, I was sorta faking it for some time. He is often mean too. I was gonna give him a hug one day, but I couldn't because the meanest teacher was standing right there. (By the way, we get refferals for public affection) Then he pushed me. Really hard too. I couldn't believe what he did! What kind of boyfriend pushes his girlfriend??? It wasn't a playful push either.

The point is, I don't like him as I used to, I like someone else, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. How do I break up with him?

[SimplicityGirl]

Get a mutual friend to come with you when you do break up with him...just in case he starts doing things to you.

Try to find a place where it is peaceful, such as a park, or a restaurant, to tel him the News. However, try to avoid places where you two normally go on dates, and don't go breaking up with him at a place that has a special meaning to the both of you; i.e, don't break up with him where you guys went on your first date, or the place where you had your first kiss, or any other place that has a sepcial meaning. And try to not break up with him on days that have a special meaning behind it, such as your own birthday, his birthday or your anniversary date...and defintely don't dump him the day after your anniversary..that's just..upsetting.

Anyway, once you done all that, just sit down with him and have a long serious talk with him. Tell him exactly why you want to break up with him. The truth hurts, but it'll only hurt him more if you don't tell him the truth and he finds out the truth from other people. I know this from experience, my ex broke up with me and didn't give me the truth. I found out from my friends and his friends, and that really hurt. By telling him the truth, it shows him that you still respect him. Don't beat around the bush. Don't pretend that you still love him when you don't. Don't lie to him. Just tell him the truth as it is.

Then afterwards...when you're done that...walk away. Make it clear to him that you won't ever get back with him. Don't make false promises on being just friends with him. Don't say that you're sorry; you can't be sorry for this. Just walk away and hope that he won't do anything to you..

And if he does, your mutual friend can always step in and help.

...and that was long o.O hope I helped.