open marriage, for or against? Options

[*mzkandi*]

here is the back story

Will Smith and Wife Have 'Open' Marriage

United Press International
Actor Will Smith says he and his wife have an agreement that they can
have sex with others provided they inform each other first.
Smith, 36, has been married to entertainer Jada Pinkett Smith for seven
years.
"Our perspective is, you don't avoid what's natural," Smith told
Britain's Daily Mail. "You're going to be attracted to people. In our
marriage vows, we didn't say forsaking all others. The vow that we made
was that you will never hear that I did something after the fact."
"If it came down to it, then one can say to the other, 'Look, I need to
have sex with somebody. I'm not going to if you don't approve of it --
but please approve of it.'"
Smith said he was forced to admit he had sexual feelings for other
women when working on his film 'Hitch,' in which he stars with Eva
Mendes, whom he described as freakin' gorgeous.
Despite that attraction, Smith says his second marriage is still solid.


my question is do you support or oppose open marriage??

me personally i dont care if other people do but i think it takes away from the whole point of being married.

[antix10_kos]

I have been in an open relationship for about 6 months or so. I have my moments where I think that it's not a great idea but most of the time, I like it because I'm not obligated to have sex with my boyfriend. We still love each other and have discussed getting married. If we end up staying together and never getting married, I can deal with that because we love each other. Even if we did get married, our relationship would remain an open one because both of us are bi-sexual, so it's hard for us to remain tied into the whole "one person only" routine.

My point is, it's hard to judge what you'd do if confronted with this situation, since most of you haven't and probably never will be. It's easy to sit there and type "I think it's wrong, it invalidates the whole point of being committed/married to a person" if you've never been involved in a relationship where being "open" has become an issue.

In my case, my boyfriend and I knew early on that sex between us was not a good idea. There's too much emotional baggage with the both of us, each person struggling with their own sexual issues for it to work. So I gave him permission to seek sex elsewhere with people that I knew, and that he knew were safe and he did the same. We've been together and much happier since we've came to that agreement. I'd rather have him in my life and be happy and have a stable relationship than have him in my life and be unhappy and fight all of the time because we were both sexually frustrated all of the time.