should i tell her? Options

[Chyn020]

hey you guys.
needless to say.. I'm new at this. so if this topic is old, I'm very sorry but I just really need advice!

ok well.. there is this boy Carlos. I really like him and everything. He's such a sweetie and he's so adorable! He asked me out yesterday.. but there is one problem.. My Mom! Im not allowed to have a boyfriend! Yes i know.. we're in the year 2005! But My mom is more of an old-fashioned hispanic mother who over-protects her children and has very strict rules!
Don't get me wrong. Its my mom and everything.. but I really like Carlos!
I have asked her before if I could have a boyfriend.. but she starts to lecture me and say "NO!"

Should I talk to her about it.. or just do it behind her back? Her trust is really important to me, but i dont think she would ever understand!
Like i said... I really really like him!

I would really appreciate any advice or comments or if anyone has had a similar problem.. what did you do?

[Just_Dream]

First off, there are still plenty of over-protective parents. Trust me, I should know. I'm 17 and my mom still tells me that I can't date guys until I'm out of college (That might take 8+ years. ) or that I can't get married until I'm 25+ years old. Realize that your mother has her best interest at heart. You don't want to get into a situation that you might regret.

Anyway, about this whole situation... Well if you don't want to date Carlos behind your mother's back, don't do it. I noticed that you're 15.. No need to rush into something so quickly. I'm in a relationship right now and I've been able to keep it from my mother and father for over 2 years (I'm with my bf for 2 years and 5+ months )... I hate lying to my mother about this because she's told me countless times to not talk to boys and stuff.

What you COULD do is tell your mother.. BUT if she gets angry and tells you know, then you COULD date him behind her back... BUT there's always OPTION C. Not many people choose Option C. Only those who really WOULD wait for eac other and care about each other a lot, would action choose option C. Option C is where you tell Carlos that you just want to be best friends with him now because your mother doesn't want you to date; ask him to wait for you, that when you're allowed to date, he should ask you out. Tell him that you do like him and that you want date him, but you don't want to date him behind her back. Introduce Carlos to your mother (IF she would allow it), that way your mother might approve of him and you two could hang out more. You two could build a stronger bond and eventually your mother might approve. :]