i don't know anymore, boyfriend...tears...heartbroken Options

[Chii]

i don't know...i always have advice for other people but i just never have any for myself...

i 've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and a handful of days so far, we started as really good friends and we all know how that goes, we ended up together and there were rainbows and sunshine...

but now...the birds aren't chirping anymore, it's not happy happy anymore. we see each other everyday and it's been all good...but during the past week it's been so rocky...

about an hour ago he told me that he didn't want to see me for a good long while...i'm afraid to ask if we're still together but if we weren't he would have told me. we broke up once because of all the fighting but we got back together to work things out. today started out good but then i overreacted about something and today went to hell. i've tried talking bu he just won't respond he doesn't talk about anything, he just bottles up everything. i probably try to push things out of him too hard...but it's difficult for me not to.

it's like what am i supposed to do? play the waiting game to see if he's going to change his mind and see me everyday? or if he's had enough? i'm just so lost in everything. i'm scared of not being with him, it hurts to think about it. i just wish that some miracle would happen and he wouldn't be in this funk...

i'm just so upset about this...i just need some words of encouragement or something nice...anything...advice...i'm just so lost

[Nicolatofu]

It sounds like maybe you two need some time apart. It could be both of you are just really frustrated and need to think things out on your own. Try not forcing him to talk. That will just make him more upset and only want to hold it in even more. Let him kinda loosen up, then maybe when he's comfortable, he'll talk to you about it. Just think of someone like your parents trying to get you to talk. That only puches you not to tell them even MORE.

Sometimes you're scared of letting something go when you don't realize that your holding on to a relationship that can lead to being beyond repair. So before it reaches that point, take some time off of your usual schedule together and do things independently so that you can ask yourself, "Did I enjoy feeling apart by myself, or do I want to really work things out?" If you feel like you want to work things out, that time apart will really help.