my 'friend' won't stop, talking about... Options

[angelrevelation]

i'd be amazed if you read the whole thing

my friend, (lets call him Chris), has been really mean lately. he's changed. and he never realizes when someone's having a bad day unless they're actually crying and blah... but that's not the point.

my other friend, (lets call her Ally), is OBSESSED with him. friendship wise, like-like wise... and since Chris has changed, going through a break up and w.e. else in life, she has been trying to 'get him back' and she will NOT stop talking about him!

Chris is the type of guy that you can get mad at easily because he doesnt change. like for example, he never realizes when someone's mad at him, because he's stuck in his own little world. and there are lots of things... and i've tried to make Ally realize that he will not change, not anytime soon and not because of her, or me, or anyone else. only because he wants to. but he doesnt. and she won't listen. she practically says 'losing him' would kill her. though she promises she isnt suicidal or anything.

so Ally IMs me every single day (more then once... whenever i get on. i havent had the heart to block her till now) and talks about him RIGHT off the bat. i'm made it clear that it's really annoying. yet she still does it. i've tried to help her. i've let her make her own decisions. that she can try to change him, but i told her not to cry when/if he doesnt. (she cries over all these little things. she's a huge drama queen ) she should be expecting him not to change, but she can still try and hope for the best. i've repeated that MANY times. and she will NOT stop! so i finally got really pissed and told her off... here's just some excerpts.

Ally: hey
me: hey
Ally: okie, can you please not talk to me about like uh all the crap that goes on bwetween u and [chris].. because like it or not hes my friend and i hate listening to people saying hes a FREAK or what not, esspecially that comment that bothered me..
me: ...
me: he's ACTING like one
me: and i'm trying to get it clear to you... but if you wont listen....
me: he's my friend too... at least i hope he still is
me: but i'm just leaving him alone
Ally: Yeah? Well Im sorrie im not one of those people that go around saying crap behind my friends backs.. i would never call someone a freak... i would never not trust him, or just leave him because hes going thru something.. he says hes trying to change.. i believe him.. just omg let him be...
me: YOU let him be...
me: seriously i wouldnt be talking about this if you dont bring it up every single time you talk to me
Ally: yes lea it was me who started insulting him last time i talked to him
me: i dont talk to him anymore
me: but when i talk to you i'm trying to make you see both sides
me: you think he's all innocent and everything
me: well he's NOT
Ally: i do not think that
me: well you sure seem like you do
me: you're all defending him even when he's been horrible to you

and...

me: and how he has changed
Ally: because I care about him, Im worried about him, and I dont want to lose him
me: and if you do...
me: move on...
me: if you dont that's great
me: but just dont...
me: its his life
me: he doesnt belong to you and he can be whoever he wants to be
me: whether you choose to hang around him is up to you...
Ally: I never said he did
me: you really do act like it
Ally signed off at 8:05:41 PM.

so yes, we're mad at each other. but does SHE have the right to be? was i being unfair? because i have had MUCH experience with Chris (being mad at him... not changing, that type of thing) to know what i'm talking about, but she won't listen. she didnt listen to me about her jerk boyfriend either... but nooo. i couldnt really talk to her at school about it because i'd start shouting at her, and she'd start crying or w.e. and yea it'd get out of hand...

i know you all would say to forget about her, but she's still my friend nonetheless.

my main question is: how can i make it clear to her to stop trying to change him?

[Shattered_Hope]

Tell her off.....or just stop talking to her....ignore her...avoid her, do whatever. Tell her that the world does not revolve around her, you have other problems and you just don't care about what she has to say.