boys, what else? Options

[cleec]

So boys are all kinds of confusing, don't you agree? Welcome to my problems, hope you are up for a long read.

So first there's the ex, total bastard if I do say so myself. We break up, mutually, and he decides that he is "mad" at me and we don't talk for about a month or so. Then we finally get on good terms, and now he is just a jerk to me. He acts like we never happened and whenever he is around girls he completely ignores me, all the while trying to make me jealous. When we do talk, its usually him talking about how he doesn't like relationships and how he wants to just mess around with girls for now. But then other days he's so nice to me again, and talks about how great it will be when he gets a car cause then we can finally go where we always said we would. He's so hot & cold, and even though he's a complete jerk to me somedays I still can't help but think of him as the guy I used to like so much and date. I don't know what to do about him, should I just forget about him and move on?

Then there's the new guy. He goes to a different school but he still lives a few streets away from me. We went to the same elementary school and recently got reaquainted at a Sweet 16 where we decided to start talking online and stuff. He's really sweet and supposely talks about me to his guy friends all the time. The only problem is that he is really shy, and I mean REALLY shy. I saw him a school event recently and we hugged and stuff but it was super awkward. We always talk about hanging out and stuff, and make plans for the future, but I'm afraid that it won't work out and will be weird when we are alone together. Is there anyway I can get him to be less shy when we hang out, or any pointers on what we can do when we do hang out so its not so awkward?

Then there's the hookup guy, total gorgeous guy, total player, you know, a girl's worst nightmare but best one at the same exact time. We hooked up at a sweet 16, not too long after I broke up with my ex. It was great and he's so awesome and very easy to be around, but he's such a friggen whore. He always talks about hanging out but I know nothing serious will ever come of it, but its weird it's like I cannot say no to him. He's so..suave? It's really hard to explain, it's as if I want him to use me, its crazy. He is always talking to me how we should hang out cause we would have so much fun, and I know we will but it's still wrong at the same time. I don't know what to do about him.

Then there's the sweet, boy next door type. He's a total angel, and by far too good for me. He is so amazing to me, I don't deserve him at all. He says such sweet stuff about me and how amazing he thinks I am, and I feel guilty. He always talks about how he doesn't have respect for most of the teenagers in our grade because they hook up with random guys and always get trashed. And although I don't get trashed, I did hook up with a guy that always gets drunk and hooks up with just about every girl. He thinks I'm different, and better, and I know I'm not like that, but in some ways I like to have fun too. I don't want to live in a sheltered bubble for my teenage life. He's so nice though, and I don't like to blow him off because I know he has been blown off by a girl he really liked int he past. It's not even that I don't like him, it's just that he's too good for me, too sweet, too perfect. What to do?

The ex friend. This one is complicated. We were best friends, totally inseperable. I used to like him, but that flame died out a long time ago. So it was around Valentine's day and we were both dateless and we both went to the V-Day dance together, and we ended up dancing for like 3 hours together. It was so much fun, but he thought of it as more of a just friends dance and he started to really like me, and by really like, I mean love me. Or so he thought. All my friends told me about how much he loved me and wanted to date me and be with me, but I wasn't feeling it because he is the jealous type and his friends are total jackasses. So we kept talking like friends, because he didn't know I knew he liked me and this was fine. Then we went to one sweet 16 and he went psycho jealous on me. He ended up yelling at every guy I danced with and told them not to dance with me anymore because I was his. It was insane, and he acted like I was his property. Obviously I got extremely pissed and I flipped out on him online. We ended things okay but now we never talk. I mean as much as he pissed me off that night, I still miss him as a friend. I don't know what to do, should I talk to him or wait for him to talk to me?

Last but not least, there's the crazy one. This guy, is amazing. He is one of the coolest guys I have ever met, he's hilarious. He was also my first kiss. We both liked eachother, but at different times so it didn't work out. However, despite all the boys I have liked, I have never been able to truly get over him. He is definately one of my best friends and I don't even think I want a relationship with him, I just want to get over him completely. When I went out with my boyfriend I didn't think of him like that, but now its back on. It's weird, when he had a girlfriend we fought all the time, and when I had a boyfriend we also fought all the time. But now that both me and him are single, we never fight. Does that mean something? He isn't the relationship type, but he's one of the few guys I can be myself around and he still loves me for it. And whenever we hang out, its the best time of my life. I want to get over this guy and finally see him as just a friend. HELP!

Sorry that was so long, I just needed to get all of that out. Thanks if you read this and if you can help me!

[cleec]

Wow you have no idea how much I want to thank you Kneuklid Romance, you helped so much! I think my problem is mainly that every guy I find that might be date-worthy, I somehow find some sort of imperfection about him. Seriously, you're awesome!