rejection-hurt-pain, how have u been hurt? Options

[kellee91]

being cheated on has to be one of the most hurtful actions a guy/girl can do to another person.
be it at any gae, it still makes you feel used and worthless. i should know, i've been cheated on, and i'm only 13.

my boyfriend and i had being goin out for 10 months and he was tha sweetest thing who everyone wanted. and I had him. all the girls were jealous of me and how we were go good together. all of the girls complimented us on how we get along heaps and how were were right together. i could see that they envied us.i'm trying not to sound up-myself here but it was true.

we were known as " the IN-THING " of year 7. and i was proud.
then the christmas holidays came along and i hadent seen him for a while becasue he had gone to bali for a soccer trip. wen he came bak we went up tha street with another person from our class hu wasnt the nicest or had the bestest reputation.
that day wasnt one of the bestest days that i had witnessed i can tell u...i'm not goin to say much about it but just that my bf wasnt exactly "normal".

after about a week i went on holidays up tha coast for a week and came bak and went to tha park with some frends from skool. they were told from a girl that did swimming with them that she gave a head job to my bf wen i was away. at tha time i was so dumpfounded that it didnt really occur to me that he cheated on me. then a couple of days later it really sunk in.
i also found out that he had started smoking (b4 this he had smoked and told me that he stopped) so he was lying to me aswell.

i was frends with this girl that he cheated on me with. which made it even worse.

they both say that they regret it....but y should i believe them... i really still like this guy but ino if i get back together with him he will only expect me to live up to his expectations , n then he will only break my heart even more.

i cant get over him even tho its been 4 months and hes practically goin out with another girl now.(they both deny liking each other but everyone knows they want to be with eachother)

me and him are talkng again.

i really really miss him..but ino if u got bak with him...i'll regret it even more.

its just so hard.

if anyone is in the same situation as me plz reply to this topic....

and plz i need advice if neone had any.......
and ino it may seem like a highschool love, no one cares about ,,,,,i assure you its not.

[tinababy143]

well lets see..i went out with one guy for 2 and a half years and towards the end of our relationship i found out that he was cheating on me almost the ENTIRE time with about....our whole 8th-9th grade class..i was definetely hurt because he was my first love and first real boyfriend..but it made me so upset that NO ONE told me about it and EVERYONE knew but me..i guess i was just oblivious anyway..we still talk..hes had 2 gfs since me and cheats on his current gf..i told her about it and his past, but she doesnt believe me..just last week he told me he was still in love with me and wanted to "hook up" LAME! but like i said..we still talk...

10th grade i went out with a guy for..hmm..i guess 6-8 months..not that long..and one night we were supposed to go bowling with my best friend and her bf, but something came up and i couldnt go, but i told him he could still go if he wanted to..he ended up cheated on me with my best friend that night..i didnt find out for a month while they were seeing each other..oblivious once again.......we havent talked since..

the guy im going out with now..we will have been together for 5 years in may..hes cheated on me twice with the same girl who he claimed was his "first love" and he cheated on me again about 3-4 months ago with a girl from his work..he told me they only kissed..so knowing me..i gave him ANOTHER chance and about a month ago i found out they did A LOT more than "just a kiss" but still..i love him and i believe he'll change..i know "once a cheater, always a cheater" but hey..i have faith..

i think you should talk to him about it and if you really feel that you love him, then tell him you'll be with him again, but its going to take a while to gain his trust back..let him know that you do love him and that if you are going to be in a relationship, you BOTH need to work at it..promise to each other that you will ALWAYS be honest with each other..no matter what..and if you make that promise..make sure you both will stand by that promise..

im sorry that happened to you and i hope everything gets better soon