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 Apr 17 2005, 09:17 AM
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I've asked many of my close friends about this, but I was wondering how feedback from cBers would look.
I am having a huge issue with my ex-boyfriend. If you could help, I would greatly appreciate it, but there is a long story tacked onto it. When we first met we were both misfits in a world of conformists. I was Guamanian, and he Australian. We were both a long way from home and missing it sorely. It was almost natural that we grew to be so close so fast. I fell head-over-heels for him. Everything was fantastic for almost two years. Then he went away to college... His first semester at Harvard was very hard for the two of us. Before leaving he had asked me to marry him while we sat in our favorite tree and stargazed. It was the question that, even at the tender age of 16, I wanted to hear from him. I said yes. After he left we decided we could see other people, so I kept the ring on a chain around my neck. After his first semester his grandfather died and he had to return to Australia, where he would remain for Lord knows how long. I dated a bit...but not much. He, on the other hand, dated a lot. He's even slept around - quite a bit I might add. We're no longer together, but I'm still in love with him. Very much so. He keeps calling, trying to stay friends. I would love to be able to do that, but it hurts so much! Should I try to put the past behind me and maintain our friendship, or so I cut him out and move on? |
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Apr 17 2005, 09:26 PM
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 dakishimetainoni...  Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
you should probably just let this all go...it's one thing to be someone's fiance and be allowed to see other people, but it's entirely a different thing when you've proposed to a girl but you sleep around...
is this what you want? he made a committment to you by proposing...but when he's away he's sleeping around. what would happen if you two actually got married? he won't be able to be with you 24/7, he may have to travel alone and he'll probably sleep with other people then...the only thing different will be that you have a wedding band just go cold turkey for awhile...most people never change, at most just stay friends, not close friends because you'll just want to be with him again... just take the ring off the necklace and fed ex or UPS it back to him... |
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islandgirl4eva from lover to friend Apr 17 2005, 09:17 AM
mzkandi Well it depends. If he isnt really wanting to have... Apr 17 2005, 09:23 AM Frankie so y'all were married and now are divorced or ... Apr 17 2005, 10:30 AM EmmalieV ^He was her ex-fiance.
I feel your pain but I thi... Apr 17 2005, 11:08 AM Nicolatofu It's harder to get over someone when you are s... Apr 17 2005, 11:11 AM punkymoke i'm having that same problem.. lover to friend... Apr 17 2005, 12:11 PM _sarcastic_ i don't think you should stop talking to him c... Apr 17 2005, 03:38 PM icy_angelx You should maintain your friendship but try to for... Apr 17 2005, 04:48 PM stephinika yeah we have talked about this before, but yeah it... Apr 17 2005, 09:15 PM starlette The love of my life and I broke up and stayed frie... Apr 17 2005, 09:17 PM yanners maybe you should maintain a distance with him for ... Apr 18 2005, 07:04 AM cHuNsAbAbIe012 if u still feel that strongly about him then i sug... Apr 18 2005, 02:24 PM Shattered_Hope If you feel hurt by your friendship then move on..... Apr 18 2005, 04:07 PM guessewho [COLOR=green][B]
I underatnd exactly how you feel.... Apr 19 2005, 05:52 PM
x shootingstar x omg, that will hurt so much..
seeing is different... Apr 19 2005, 06:05 PM |
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