from lover to friend Options

[*islandgirl4eva*]

I've asked many of my close friends about this, but I was wondering how feedback from cBers would look.

I am having a huge issue with my ex-boyfriend. If you could help, I would greatly appreciate it, but there is a long story tacked onto it.

When we first met we were both misfits in a world of conformists. I was Guamanian, and he Australian. We were both a long way from home and missing it sorely. It was almost natural that we grew to be so close so fast. I fell head-over-heels for him. Everything was fantastic for almost two years. Then he went away to college...

His first semester at Harvard was very hard for the two of us. Before leaving he had asked me to marry him while we sat in our favorite tree and stargazed. It was the question that, even at the tender age of 16, I wanted to hear from him. I said yes. After he left we decided we could see other people, so I kept the ring on a chain around my neck. After his first semester his grandfather died and he had to return to Australia, where he would remain for Lord knows how long.

I dated a bit...but not much. He, on the other hand, dated a lot. He's even slept around - quite a bit I might add.

We're no longer together, but I'm still in love with him. Very much so. He keeps calling, trying to stay friends. I would love to be able to do that, but it hurts so much!

Should I try to put the past behind me and maintain our friendship, or so I cut him out and move on?

[heyyfrankie]

so y'all were married and now are divorced or he was your fiance(sp?) and now y'all are seperated. well, i think that y'all choosing to see other people was not the best choice. i think that whenever people do that, things can get weird...like in your case. you obviously loved him enough to not date around that much and not sleep around that much if at all. on the other hand, he dated alot and slept around alot. i think that y'all should just stay good friends.