not the first, finding out Options

[*islandgirl4eva*]

The first time my boyfriend and I were physically intimate, we got carried away and I started trembling (I HATE it when I do that). He looked down on me and asked me if I was nervous. I told him I was. He asked me if I was a virgin and I told him yes, because I am.

Then I did something that I shouldn't have done. I asked him if HE was a virgin. He wasn't. For some reason after hearing that, my heart broke a little bit. I pushed him away and started crying. He came and held me and apologized. Eventually I got over it, but whenever we get intimate I always wonder if I measure up to the other women.

Have you ever found out that you were not you lover's first partner? How did you feel?

[Chii]

my boyfriend hated my sexual past...i mean i was a virgin when we got together but i did plenty of other things. he was just like you...afraid he didn't measure up but think of it this way:

you're the one he's with, he's had sex before and he repsects the fact that you're a virgin. if he was worried about you being bad in bed then he'd just go elsewhere for it. plus, it's not like his brain will focus on what it was like with so and so when you're messing around, he'll just focus on you and how you are...during the act, most men probably just think about ejaculating and how great you make him feel.

i've never been in this situation before so this is what i believe. i've told him that the other people didn't matter and it's completely true. he seems sincere for conforting you when you cried about it, people like him and me and lots of people love someone for them not because of how great in bed they are.

don't upset yourself about asking him if he was a virgin, plenty of couples discuss that. if you didn't mention it then, it would be mentioned later.

also, who cares how great the others were, you're the one who has him, they couldn't keep him