nice guys, lose Options

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Despite my sarcasm and satirical humor on this blog, I'm a nice guy and its a well known fact to all those who come in contact with me. Very few have seen my temper and most are aware of my attempts at philanthropy. To put it simply; I care about others more than I care about myself and I selfishly devote myself to selflessness. I'm told all the time that I have every right to show some more pride in my achievements or that I should accept compliments with a bit more ease, but, this is just my nature. I've dated girls who've loved this about me and I've made them very happy. A few others have used this against me and manipulated me like the fool I am (when it coms to women). If you've ever been to a pro basketball game, the courtside suites are as luxurious as it gets. You don't even have to watch the game with leather furniture and a plasma screen tv linked to DirecTV with a constant (and free [sort of]) supply of food. Now that that's said, I invited an ex to the Spurs/Lakers game and I had courtside suites. We were there for 20 minutes and she decided that basketball, as well as my interests (jazz music, motorcycles, writing) bored her and she wanted me to show her a good time on our date. Jazz clubs were out of the question, motorcycle rides weren't an option and poetry night got put right out of my mind. I took her out to eat at the Cheesecake Factory and proceeded to take her home. Different girl, same MO. Guys like me, in my situation that is, stand idly by while the girls that we believe we should be with suffer through a shady relationship with the cheating a-hole that we secretly plot to take out. My question is; do girls like these assholes that degrade them, objectify them and live their lives behind a macho bravado just for their rep? From middle school to college, its been the same thing over and over again and the nice guy, no matter how good looking or ugly, strong or weak, finished last.

[xTINAA]

My question is; do girls like these assholes that degrade them, objectify them and live their lives behind a macho bravado just for their rep? From middle school to college, its been the same thing over and over again and the nice guy, no matter how good looking or ugly, strong or weak, finished last.

Well I wouldn't like an arse who degrades me or objectifies me. But I mean, there is just a certain appeal that a "bad boy" has that a "nice guy" doesn't. And vice versa. I don't think that nice guys always finish last. It's more of a package deal. And sure, maybe in highschool girls are into the bad boy rep or something, but I think that it will fade out with time and the girls that are into that will realize that they've been passing up all the nice guys right in front of them and dealt with jerks instead. I personally, like a mix.

[fameONE]

Well I wouldn't like an arse who degrades me or objectifies me. But I mean, there is just a certain appeal that a "bad boy" has that a "nice guy" doesn't. And vice versa. I don't think that nice guys always finish last. It's more of a package deal. And sure, maybe in highschool girls are into the bad boy rep or something, but I think that it will fade out with time and the girls that are into that will realize that they've been passing up all the nice guys right in front of them and dealt with jerks instead. I personally, like a mix.

My case is slightly different, because, although I am nice. I'll throw down if I have to. I'll get in someone's face if the time calls for it and I can hold my own. But I don't want my girl seeing me turn into a different person because of rage and anger. A lot of my friends will try to overcompensate and be bigger hardasses when there are girls around. I don't get it, honestly, because I've never met a girl who was thrilled when I told her that I've been boxing for 5 years.

PS- I like the pic in your sig. You're very pretty (and I've told you this how many times now?)