i feel like i'm being unfair, in judging him like this... Options

[angelrevelation]

so there's this guy i like in my PE class. he's in 9th grade, i'm in 8th. there are all these differences like he's popular, hott (lol there's a point with this) and really funny and everything... i could just go on. and i've gotten some hints for a while that he might like me, but i feel like it would be impossible (because of who i am... like he could have ANY of the pretty 9th grade girls) that he could like me, but from everything that's happened i dont really know what to think.
i've seen him to be mean to certain people. like really mean. and he swears a lot (not a LOT... but more then i'm used to with most ppl) and all this stuff, so i'm not really sure if he'd be my type. like the bad boy type. because it kind of scares/intimidates me sometimes.
i talked about this with one of my friends, and she said that i was being stereotypical, that just because he was popular and w.e. doesnt mean that he couldn't like me... but dont people's actions speak for themselves? i mean he has called a girl in class various 'names', but then again he's so nice and sweet and funny and charming other times. but i dont know him at all... so he couldn't possibly like me for my personality

but basically, my question is Do you think i should be so judgemental? i feel like i'm assuming everything...

sorry this was really confusing and long... i'll try to rephrase if you dont get it

[Nicolatofu]

ok, first of all, I want you to set aside the fact that he's popular, good looking, and attractive to other girls. Picture him as a decent looking, not very well known teenage boy with the same personality. Would you feel the same way about him? If you answered no, then I don't think it's a good idea because that means you're basing what your future relationship would be like on his physical appearence. Also, if you don't know him very well and he doesn't know you, then that tends to lead me to believe that this is based on looks, because if you don't know very much about each other, then how can you say you like him? If that guy's a jerk to some people but not you, that may be ok for you, but think about how the people being insulted would feel. Put yourself in their shoes. It wouldn't feel very nice, would it? So in the end, he's hurting people by calling them names, and every person that is on the other end of those insults have feelings. Do you want a boyfriend who treats others negatively like that? just a few things to think about.